(Closed) He’s a Groomsman, His Ex is a Bridesmaid

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
401 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

i feel you girl. my bf ex is a hoe so she always get the side eye from me.

Post # 4
226 posts
Helper bee

I feel ya! My bf was engaged to his ex… and my bf’s sister is marrued to my bfs exes cousin… so I have the JOY of hearring about her and seeing her on a regular basis. Shes also a liar, told people the baby she had was my bfs (even though they brojke up 6 months before she got pregnant), she sent my bf dirty messages and has been a big pain!

Good luck! And just remember you are the bigger person AND you have the guy!

Post # 5
1927 posts
Buzzing bee

First off, someone should teach the bride and groom that you don’t split up married or engaged couples for a mixed party social event.  Significant others should have been invited to their rehearsal dinner.  Ignoring that fact, I would say don’t worry about it!  I know that’s easier said than done, I wouldn’t like being in this situation either.  But it sounds like your Fiance has been really open with you about the past and has told you straight up he has no remaining feelings for her, and even cut off ties to her.  He has stood up for you to the groom as well, so he clearly has your back.  Just trust him not to do anything that would make you uncomfortable, and make fun plans with your grilfriends the night of the rehearsal to keep your mind off it!

Post # 6
64 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

ugh…what a dreadful woman this ex is…this is not a situation I would want any woman to be in…I would just say that you have to be the bigger person here and know that your fiance loves you and only you. This woman can try whatever she wants, but honestly, it doesn’t mean that it’ll work…blow this chick out of the water and show her that you’re a better person than she is, and that’s why he’s marrying you!!

Post # 8
3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Too funny, this weekend I was in a wedding and my ex was a Groomsmen. I was DREADING the entire thing, but not as much as FH. It actually all turned out well because no one made a big deal about it. It was a whole lot of worrying for nothing if that helps!

Post # 10
365 posts
Helper bee

I just went through this in June!  My FI’s ex and he were together for years though, but had been broken up for a while when he and I met.  Although she has had several moments of crazy throughout our relationship, being underhanded and trying to make his family dislike me or make Fiance and I fight, but mostly we just ignore all of it.  I was invited to the rehearsal dinner, but it was also fairly casual, so no big deal.  At the rehearsal, they largely just avoided each other, which worked well.  However, at the actual wedding, Fiance completely ignored his ex, but she did not do the same.  He loves to dance to stuff like the Cupid Shuffle and the Electric Slide, while I am not a fan.  So whenever he was out dancing to one of those and I wasn’t, she would go dance really close by to him and send me smirks and dirty looks.  I didn’t say a word about it to anyone, but other people noticed and mentioned it to me. 

Later, when he and I were away from the actual reception, she stormed over and yelled at him and then continued to say stuff under her breath to him when she passed by in the reception all night.  He told me that he was angry about her yelling at him, but still just ignored her (we were both dead set on not having any drama with her during the wedding).  And so on and so forth.  Not to mention that the bride and groom came out of the reception to see why she was yelling at him, and I was the one who smoothed it over with them and told them not to worry about it and go have fun!  Now the bride doesn’t even speak to her because of her behaviour at the wedding….

At the end of the night, it was his reaction, not hers, that mattered.  He could have cared less about her or her drama, and it showed.  I think if you trust him, then you don’t have anything to worry about!


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