(Closed) He's being really weird…I'm worried

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I dont have advice really, but I would say your gut feeling is right. Go with it and uncover what is going on.

 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@anonhoneybee:  I’m sorry, but it really, really, realily sounds like he’s cheating on you. And even if he isn’t, this is truly bizarre behavior that is a problem in and of itself. I don’t think this guy is ready for marriage. I hope you find out the truth soon before you invest more time and money in this relationship. Please keep us updated. I hope things work out for you. 🙁

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m sorry to say I have no good news for you at all. At best he’s not committed to the relationship and wants to spend time away from you. But realistically, sorry to say, he’s cheating.

I guess you could stake out the pool hall to be 100% sure he’s lying. But really I think you need to move out ASAP.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@paula1248:  +1

 

Yeah I would totally go and find out if he is really at this pool hall.  If not, I would confront him.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m sorry, but this guy is clearly hiding something. It doesn’t matter what it is, if he can’t be honest with you, do you really want to spend the rest of your life like this? Playing detective? 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m not going to tell you what you already think you know, but you do need to find out what is going on. You deserve to know why he is acting that way, and what his true feelings about your relationship are. 

You don’t want to be legally bound to someone who is unfaithful to you or cannot be honest about his feelings. It’s better you figure things out now and get the heck away from him and with someone that actually treats you how you deserve. 

Massive hugs coming your way honey <3

 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Whatever he’s doing he’s up to no good. Even if you didn’t have this history it would be weird, but since you do it’s even weirder. you are definitely not over reacting at all, something shady is going on. 

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m sorry your Fiance is being so shady! I think I would start snooping, in your position. Maybe he really is at a pool hall!

But assuming he’s doing something shady, I think you might want to be prepared to walk for REAL this time. It’s a pattern of behavior, and it’s not ever going to stop.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@HappySky7:  +1 spot on!

 

@anonhoneybee: One second wasted on worry over this guy is one second too much! Trust your gut it’s telling you something otherwise you wouldn’t have started this thread. Please trust me on this one, I’ve been married before to a cheater (while I was 9 mos preggo) dirtbag! 

What I’ve learned is that I deserved a hell of a lot more than my ex had to offer! I couldnt be happier now! I am about to marry a man that Respects and loves me.

 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@anonhoneybee:  Something is fishy… I wouldn’t be so much concerned about the financials… staying out all night, multiple nights a week?  Uh-uh. 

At minimum I would hold off on wedding plans.  Dude needs to come clean.  Even if he’s not actually cheating, something is up and he owes you an honest explanation.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Why are you letting him TELL you “you would be bored”? Why not just say, “no I won’t! Let’s go!” . Problem solved.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Ummmm, since you make more money and you both have access to your bank account, I would separate that he is being way to sneaky…

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

You are a great person, he is an idiot for treating you this way. Ditch the loser and find somebody better worth your time.

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