Post # 1
My SO and I have been dating for almost a year and a half. Around our one year anniversary he started telling me how I was the one he wanted to spend the rest of his life with ten not long after that he suggested we go ring shopping. We went ring shopping ever single weekend for the next couple months until I finally said no more, you know what I like! A few weeks later my parents came to visit and he talked to my dad and even told him he had the ring, which my mom slipped and told me. That was a couple months ago! Since then I won a free photo session with some local photographers and he was all forit, loved how the pics turned out and even told me to tell them we wanted to use them and to give them an approximate date in April. All this but he still aunt proposed!! I don’t get it! I even asked him once what the hold up is and he just keeps saying he’s working on it. ??? I leave for a wedding next weekend and made the comment that it’d be nice to have something to show all my family and friends, since I prob won’t see mot of them again for quite a whie and a majority of them prob wont be able to even come to the wedding since I live so far away now, and he just smiled and said, “I know”. Now it’s Labor Day weekend and we had CNN amazing first day on the beach with friends and although I don’t really expect it today since I don’t think he’ll it in front of people, I’m really hoping he’ll do it tomorrow or Monday. At the same time, I’m afraid to get my hopes up because part of me wonders if he’s just putting it off because he really doesn’t want to or something, I don’t know! I’m trying so hard not to take it personal or to feel like its a rejection but its hard! Andi feel like its starting to put a strain on our relationship! Just so confused!! Why do all that and then not follow thru with a proposal??
Post # 3
@Sunnyb07: Maybe he’s planning something really special and doesn’t want to do it spur of the moment. Calm down. You know he’s going to propose. You have something wonderful to look forward to.
Post # 4
That is exciting… sounds like a Proposal is close
To answer your Question…
For the same reason that us gals spend MONTHS if not YEARS planning our Weddings
Because they are uber-important to us
We only get one kick at the can
And we want to get it right, perfect, no regrets the first time
The Proposal / Engagement is the ONLY piece that truly is guy territory… you have to allow him to do it in his own way
Hang in there…
You’ll be an Engaged Bee before you know
Lol, think of it this way… it is coming. There are plenty of Waiting Bees who’d die to be in your shoes having their guys with a ring in hand just looking to find the right moment to pop the question
(( HUGS ))
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo
Could he be waiting for a “landmark” date? My BF has always been adamant that he’d never propose to someone before their 2nd anniversary, is it possible that your BF is similar? Perhaps he’s waiting for your 1.5 years of dating, or possibly even the 2 year anniversary.
At the very least, he hasn’t been holding on to the ring for all that long yet and you haven’t been together a terribly long time, I’d at least try to keep calm until your 2nd anniversary and if he hasn’t done it by then (which I think is entirely unlikely) then maybe sit him done to ask what’s going on 🙂 that’s *only* half a year away.
All the best! X
Post # 6
Maybe he is waiting on something like an appointment date, maybe with a photographer or something. In a recent post, a bee’s now FI rented out her favourite restaurant just for the proposal.
Hold tight, something great is coming! He knows you want it soon!
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church
My fiance had my ring for a year and a half before he proposed. I think you need to relax some. Go get a pedicure or something and just breathe.
Post # 8
sounds like he has got something in the pipe line! how exciting :-). good luck and I am sure it will be soon. hard I know but be patient, you don’t want to spoil any surprise.
have you got any special dates coming up? x
Post # 9
My DH waited for a special vacation to propose!
He’s asked permission, he has the ring, now it’s just waiting!
Post # 10
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!
@Sunnyb07: My FI had the ring and had asked permission and waited for 2 months after getting permission to propose. Turns out he was waiting for my birthday weekend.
He said afterwards that he felt a huge deal of pressure was going to be on the proposal. We had been together for a very long time, and lots of our friends and family were anxiously waiting to ask “How did he do it?!” He said this freaked him out and he just had to make every detail absolutely perfect and worth retelling.
Now if it were me, I wish he would’ve just done something super low key at home, not public and when we were in our comfort zones (I’m a homebody though and he’s an extrovert).
So, to him, a grand gesture was the perfect proposal and it took a lot of planning. Don’t get down on yourself like I did while I was in that 2 months of waiting! I had some horrible days and the whole entire time I knew he had the ring and I knew he had asked for permission.. these are clear signs that he’s going to propose. Let him take his time and do his thing. He needs to mentally prepare, too. Your proposal is coming!! Enjoy this time in your life, it’s seriously one of the most exciting times ever!
Go to the gym and go tanning and get your nails done to pass the time maybe? If that’s your thing. Pamper yourself and bask in the soon-coming newly engaged bliss!! This guy wants to make you his wife for sure. Stop freaking out (like I did ). This is the one thing that they get to have complete control over, after this you’ll be in charge of everything 😀
Post # 11
This is why I love this site!!!! Thanks ladies!!! 🙂 Although I know he wouldn’t have done all that if he doesn’t plan on proposing soon its good to hear another’s say it too! 🙂 I know he wants the proposal to be special and although we really don’t have any special occasions coming up for quite a while I will do my best to just relax and be patient! Keep the advice coming!!!! 🙂 Definitely helps keep this Chic’s nerves under control!! 🙂
Post # 12
our mini vacay is coming to an end and I’m really fighting back tears of disappointment! This weekend has been amazing! We’ve had an amazing time and there were tons of romantic opportunities! He took me to a nice restaurant and even suggested we cut thru a beautiful park on our waburp the restaurant, still nothing! I feel embarrassed! All my family and friends were sure it’d be this weekend anit now I have to go back and tell them I have nothing spectacular to tell! 🙁 All this waiting makes me feel like he’s pushing it off for as long as he can, which hurts! He promised me he’d give me at least a six month engagement since he’s already picked the date and times running out! I feel so hurt!!!
Post # 13
My FI did the same thing over the course of about six months. After weeks passed following his 6-hr trip to ask my parents permission, I began to get antsy, and would bat my eyelashes as I’d ask leading questions, while trying not to pressure him too much… He never gave me any of the information I wanted (when, where, etc), of course. However, he always smirked and acted like he knew something I didn’t. While that gave me some reassurance, I really just wanted to shake the poor guy and tell him to do it already! I think knowing that he bought the ring and asked my parents for their permission def made the waiting process much more difficult. I thought about it EVERY day.
He ultimately waited for a specific date that was special to me, but says he considered doing it numerous times prior to that. He also admits that he didn’t have a specific time, place or moment… Just when it felt right. Once he did it (and he did really wait for the perfect moment), he was SO incredibly nervous, I’m surprised he got the words out at all. He also tells me that although he KNEW I wouldn’t say “no”, that there was always still a “what if…” that scared the heck out of him.
I know it’s hard, but just relax… Or, pretend to be… Because he is probably very nervouse going to want to give it to you when he thinks you”ll least be expecting it. You’ll be able to flaunt that e-ring on here soooon enough, girl! ; )
Post # 14
Thanks!!! It is extremely nerve e wracking and, like you, I’m orrery sure he doesn’t have anything specific in mind either, yet he keeps saying he’s working on it! Whatever that means! And I agree, knowing he’s done everything else definitely makes the waiting harder!!
Post # 15
@Sunnyb07: awh i can understand! we do this to ourselves all the time!! i can’t imagine my SO ever surprising me cos i seem to be watching him all the time to drop to a knee! he’ll have to gatecrash me in the shower or something!
Your SO has the ring, has the permission! it is coming! My SO told me last week what about if he proposes when we go away at the end of November! thats 3 months away! 3 months! ahhhhhhhhh and yet I’m still thinking oh he’s just throwing me off the scent now he could do it sooner! ha ha
our poor guys!!