- 9 years ago
- Wedding: January 2010
@Booknerd: I have to disagree with most everyone on here…. Honestly, it sounds simply like a case of cold feet. He may have had someone on the side he was trying to get rid of and tried to play it off but you got upset and then maybe he realized he might have not been feeling ready from that fling because he was unloyal and didn’t want you to know. Don’t ask him if he had a fling or accuse him of anything, just talk it out with him. It will involve tears and maybe curse words and maybe a stuffed animal thrown to the ground but I think talking it out where you aren’t allowed to do anything else will help you find out what’s really going on and if you do need to cancel anything. Good luck.
If he needed a FLING to decide he wanted to be with her, she deserves better. If he was unloyal, she deserves better. If he is not honest with her, she deserves better.
If someone has cold feet, they should respect and love their partner enough to talk to their partner and go to counseling if they want to address it. A mature, respectful, loving, and self-aware adult does not go and have a fling to test their feelings for their partner, and personally I do not think the OP should settle for any less than a mature, respectful, loving and self-aware adult. I would also hope that that a mature, respectful, loving and self aware adult does not need to have conversations about difficult things with curse words and thrown stuffed animals…
She has no choice but to cancel things if he has said he is not ready to go ahead with it!