- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013 - The front lawn of our church
My Boyfriend or Best Friend and I met in church. We are a fairly conservative couple, and do not prefer to go out drinking much and that kind of thing. Before I met him, he was extremely heavily involved in partying, drinking, sex, smoking weed… etc. In his words, he woke up with a beer in his hand and was high about 80% of the day. About a month before we met, he decided he wanted to go a different direction with his life and quit partying, smoking, and all of that kind of thing. He grew up going to church, and he decided to leave the party scene, and really become more responsible and mature. (Again, this was before we even met so the change in his life had nothing to do with me being controlling.) Recently, his best friend since HS came back in town and I met him for the first time. He stayed for a week and each time that we hung out with him I noticed that Boyfriend or Best Friend was very different from the man I know. His humor was different, the way he treated me was different, and they were constantly talking about how things used to be. Honestly, it kind of scared me. But when we’re not with the friend, everything is great and perfectly normal, and he says how glad he is to be away from that scene. Should I be concerned? I don’t want to be controlling at all or anything like that, and the friend is a great guy, I just am very unsettled because I’ve never seen my Boyfriend or Best Friend like this before and it makes me worried that he will start missing his old life and eventually go back to it. At the same time, if that’s the life he wants I don’t want to hold him back. Any advice?