(Closed) He’s going to ‘talk to someone about it’?

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
3638 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I think it’s great! He’s looking for ways to prepare for marriage and see it in more of a positive light so that he can be a good husband. 

I would support this 100%, he’s still goign to marry you, he’ll just be a better husband.

The fact that he has recongised his fears and wants to deal with them and improve himself speaks volumes.


Post # 4
4014 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I also think that he has made a very mature decision! He has decided to seek help to improve your relationship and overall your future marriage! Kudos to him! Support away!

Post # 5
962 posts
Busy bee

I agree with the other bees that this is a good sign. Society sometimes conditions us to believe that if things are good, then we shouldn’t need to seek any help. In other words, we are lead to believe that getting outside counsel is a sign that something is wrong. This is not the case, though. His decision to get some guidance is a sign of strength and of his commitment to you. I wish my bf would do the same

Post # 6
706 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@mxpinky: Absolutely good! Someone who’s rational about his decisionmaking and eager to work through any hesitation he has in a healthy, productive way? Good catch!

Post # 7
363 posts
Helper bee

I think it’s great that you “told him that I’ll just be here when he wants to open up about these convos and he has all the space he wants about it.”  He needs to feel you are on his side.  Good for you.

My friend was with her guy (an over-analytical person who “analyzes something from 360 angles before making a decision”).  He finally analyzed it enough, and after 6 years of being together, they got married last year. 

It is not  bad thing actually, because like you said, once he makes his decision, he will be committed to it. 

He sounds like he has a good head on his shoulders 😉

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