Post # 1
My Fiance and I recently moved for him to continue his education… he has made some really great friends in a short period of time. Unfortunately, part of their class requirement is to work in a rural area the week of our wedding (Mon-Fri … and our wedding is the Fri – wedding was planned before we found out about school) he was able to change his week but no one else from his class will be able to come. They get a March break and the guys in his class decided they are going to Vegas for his bach!
He will have another bach with wedding party/ friends from before we moved but it will definitely be more chill as most the guys are married/ in serious relationships. Fiance is a few years older then his classmates who are mostly 22 and single! These guys definitely know how to party and I obviously trust Fiance 110% but these guys are wild. Fiance said he would not go if I didn’t want him too – clearly I don’t want to be that girl, and I do want him to go and have fun! 🙂 But what are the limits for bach party? I feel going to Vegas equals high expectations for going wild!
Did you have any limits on your Bach parties? Anyone else Fiance go to Vegas?
edit: these guys talk about re-creating The Hangover… and I’m not sure they are kidding LOL
Post # 3
What are you comfortable with? Just because they’re going to Vegas doesn’t mean they have to go crazy. Neither my Fiance or I am comfortable with strippers, so he’s not having any at his party. They are going paintballing, to a comedy club, hitting up a casino and partying in their hotel room.
Post # 4
Well… I’m pretty sure Fiance has vetoed strippers on his own (he says he doesn’t like them), so my only condition is that he needs to avoid anything that might send him or one of his buddies to the ER. If he were going gambling, we’d probably have to talk about how much money he’d be willing to spend/lose.
I don’t have any worries about his behavior though, otherwise, even if someone does hire a stripper.
Post # 5
My hubby spent 5 days there for his bachelors. All the guys were from out of the country so they went to PARTY as this was once in a lifetime opportunity. One brought like 8 grand to spend… I mean, HOW do you spend that much.
The guys were all a little older and I didnt really have limits. Yes, they drank, Fiance puked. They went to a strip club, and he got lap dances etc. but that doesnt really bother me personally.
I was more worried about excessive drinking. I made the boys promise me they would watch out if someone passed out or wandered off etc.
I feel like when you have HUGE plans like “the hangover” things really never work out like that. Let him know how you feel about excessive drinking and strippers and a limit for gambling and then trust him.
And I tried to be good and only called him twice…..
Post # 6
My Fiance is going to Vegas as well but so am I with all my girlfriends so I can’t complain! We actually decided to do our Bachelorette and Bachelor parties on the same weekend so we are flying out together then going to our seperate hotels but are planning on meeting up for dinner each night then doing our own things! My girlfriends and I love going to the clubs and dancing and I know that is not FI’s things so they will mostly gamble and I am sure go to a stip club. I think if you are marrying someone you trust them 100% and really don’t have anything to worry about.
Post # 7
My rules? No swapping fluids and if you wouldn’t want me to find out about it then you shouldn’t be doing it. There’s a lot I’m cool with and we’re super open with eachother so he knows that if he would be afraid of me knowing about it it is DEFINTELY not within the realm of acceptable.
Post # 8
I don’t put limits on anything my husband does… he’s an adult, he can figure it out.
Post # 9
My husband went there for his stag. Perhaps they’re just good secret keepers but it sounded fairly controlled. They went to cirque Elvis and drank a lot and went golfing with a hired “caddy” hat I assume was just a hot chick in a short skirt… Nothing I wouldn’t be happy about I don’t think.
Post # 10
no issues with gambling – Fiance hates losing $10 at the slots!
they will DEFINITELY be going to a strip club which I am ok with… the main issue is lap dances!
I said no strippers in the hotel room (he said of course not) and then I asked about lap dances… he said he wouldn’t if i didn’t want him too but is that unfair of me? i mean he is going to vegas with all these guys to just hang out? LOL
Post # 11
No strippers in the hotel room, no dancers, no girls/women in that room. My brother went to a vegas Bach party and the things he told me about made my stomach turn. If they go out to strip clubs who really cares? even those lap dances aren’t 1/10th as bad as the girls coming to their location.
My Fiance is going away for an overnight at that was the only stipulation…. the strip clubs here the girls get naked … i d on’t care. Just no one back to their rooms. Fiance was a marine and has seen it all so i’m pretty good about anything … just skeeeeves me out bringing entertainment back to the room.
Post # 12
oh ya!!!! I just remembered! In vegas they don’t strip all the way right? (Different story in Canada) Already feeling a little better !
Post # 13
I wouldn’t put a limit on it. He’s an adult and can feel free to enjoy himself.
Post # 14
Ugh, I hate the Bachelor party thing…. I told Fiance to not cross any lines. He knows what I think would be crossing a line. But the truth is I will probably never know if he does so I will just have to trust him. I don’t think I have to say “honey, dont cross a line”, but I just feel better saying it. I have seen my friends get way crazier at home then in Vegas though, Vegas wears you out!
Post # 15
My Fiance is also having his bach party in Vegas. I trust him to monitor himself.