Hes got the ring, now what?

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
159 posts
Blushing bee

You know he’s going to propose before December, so quit asking. At least you have a ring and a date he’s going to do it by! Do you have hobbies to keep busy? I wouldn’t allow myself to worry until the day after he said he was going to do it by. I’d love to be in your boat right now. We went to look at rings a year and a half ago and I know he hasn’t gotten one yet and I don’t know when he’s going to ask, but yet I can’t keep bothering him. You’re almost at the finish line!

Post # 3
928 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

maybe keep a journal of your feelings every day until he pops the question. then burn the book lol

Post # 6
571 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2018 - City, State

“Why cant he just do it already?!”

Heres why- courtesy of my fiance. The proposal is HIS part. You get the ring, and to flash it off. The HOW is his show off. Everyone wants to hear the story. Its his responsibility and his pride. 

Let him have this. He wants it to be special. You are sitting there complaining you want it now- but this is about the two of you. He knows you are just analysing every opportunity- its hard to surprise and make special an occasion you already expect Also he is busy with law school give the guy a break and start a hobby or work on some kind of self improvement project for yourself to take your mind off it 


Post # 7
14179 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I will never understand actually having the ring and waiting months on end. IMO there’s nothing more romantic IMO than a guy who is so excited to propose that the ring burns a hole in his pocket. Waiting for the perfectly staged YouTube worthy moment or perfect venue is unnecessary and can do more harm to the relationship than I think some people realize.

If it makes you feel any better, though, I am not a huge fan of birthday proposals and think it’s nice for the engagement to be its own special occasion. And I can understand not wanting to be under the pressure of school. 

That said, if you purchased the ring together and have a timeline then you are essentially already engaged. It sounds like you have nothing to worry about. 

Post # 8
435 posts
Helper bee

If he’s stressing out about finiishing his law school semester, it won’t be much fun for him to propose and get engaged with that on his mind.  Let him finish his classes, so she can relax and switch gears to enjoying your (and his) engagement. 

In the meantime, start your Christmas shopping or something.  Or plan a nice dinner or something to celebrate his finishing his papers and passing his exams at the end of the semester.

Post # 9
10721 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

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weddingmaven :  

Absolutely. I love the way he said he wants OP to ‘enjoy it’ . Sounds  like she’s really enjoying it .


Post # 10
2246 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

He is totally proposing to you on your birthday.  He said that to throw you off.

My husband did the same. I was expecting him to propose on our weekend away to our favourite place. He said it isn’t happening this weekend as everyone will expect it! I thought ok, maybe next weekend and didn’t think anything of it. Anyway he asked me that weekend 😊

Post # 11
1509 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2019

I was in a similar situation and it gets frustrating! Hindsight is 20/20 so take it from me, let it go. Enjoy being in your relationship as bf/gf because once you’re engaged, you’ll never get that time back. Be kind to yourself and let your timeline playout as you both have agreed too. Trust and believe that you’ll laugh at how crazy you felt while waiting. It will happen before you know it! 

Post # 12
259 posts
Helper bee

I am living the same scenario as you right now! Ring was purchased in June and I am awaiting a proposal. Today is our 4 year anniversary and I’m HOPING it will be today but lord knows I don’t want to get excited just to be disappointed…..
I’m basically following along to get the same advice you’ve asked for since I also need it. Best of luck!

Post # 13
25 posts

I know it’s hard, but try to take your mind off of it, girly.

I’m in the same boat as you. Boyfriend has had the ring since July and I know it’s hidden somewhere in our tiny apartment. I can’t understand what is taking him SO LONG to propose, but I know that the proposal itself means a lot to him. And our engagement/marriage isn’t just about me. It’s also about him, so I’m forcing myself to be patient.

Post # 14
875 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

He has a ring, he gave you a timeline. It sounds like he has something really specific and special planned. I know waiting sucks… but you are waiting under the best circumstances. it will happen… enjoy this final time as bf/gf 🙂

Post # 15
88 posts
Worker bee

My fiance had the ring for 6 months (and I knew about it, he told me when he got it and I was involved in picking it out) before he proposed. After about 2 months I started getting irritated. After 4 months we argued about it. After that I did my very best to let it go. He proposed a week and a half ago. I heard the same as lot of the PPs – he was waiting for his moment, this was his part, etc. It didn’t make me any less irritated that it took him 6 months, to be honest.

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