Post # 1
We purchased the ring together back in July and since then ive been going crazy waiting for it. I had not brought it up at all as he said he would before our family trip to Aruba on Dec 19th. So, for sure I know im getting it before Dec. 19th. However, recently ive been bringing it up a lot and got upset when he mentioned I shouldnt be expecting it on my birthday (oct 18th). He said he didnt want me to be disappointed so he was letting me know it wasnt gonna happen on my birthday and that he just wanted me to enjoy it. I got even more upset and started asking him what is taking so long and he started to get frustrated with me asking. He said he wants it to be special and he wants to do it his way, that he is not going to tell me anything and to just be surprised. I know he has the ring, so in my mind, why cant he just do it already? He is in law school so hes currently finishing up the semester, and is super busy. How can I wait it out these next two months?? Help!!
Post # 2
You know he’s going to propose before December, so quit asking. At least you have a ring and a date he’s going to do it by! Do you have hobbies to keep busy? I wouldn’t allow myself to worry until the day after he said he was going to do it by. I’d love to be in your boat right now. We went to look at rings a year and a half ago and I know he hasn’t gotten one yet and I don’t know when he’s going to ask, but yet I can’t keep bothering him. You’re almost at the finish line!
Post # 3
maybe keep a journal of your feelings every day until he pops the question. then burn the book lol
Post # 4
hahahah omg i love that idea!! the burn book!
Post # 6
- Wedding: December 2018 - City, State
“Why cant he just do it already?!”
Heres why- courtesy of my fiance. The proposal is HIS part. You get the ring, and to flash it off. The HOW is his show off. Everyone wants to hear the story. Its his responsibility and his pride.
Let him have this. He wants it to be special. You are sitting there complaining you want it now- but this is about the two of you. He knows you are just analysing every opportunity- its hard to surprise and make special an occasion you already expect Also he is busy with law school give the guy a break and start a hobby or work on some kind of self improvement project for yourself to take your mind off it
Post # 7
I will never understand actually having the ring and waiting months on end. IMO there’s nothing more romantic IMO than a guy who is so excited to propose that the ring burns a hole in his pocket. Waiting for the perfectly staged YouTube worthy moment or perfect venue is unnecessary and can do more harm to the relationship than I think some people realize.
If it makes you feel any better, though, I am not a huge fan of birthday proposals and think it’s nice for the engagement to be its own special occasion. And I can understand not wanting to be under the pressure of school.
That said, if you purchased the ring together and have a timeline then you are essentially already engaged. It sounds like you have nothing to worry about.
Post # 8
If he’s stressing out about finiishing his law school semester, it won’t be much fun for him to propose and get engaged with that on his mind. Let him finish his classes, so she can relax and switch gears to enjoying your (and his) engagement.
In the meantime, start your Christmas shopping or something. Or plan a nice dinner or something to celebrate his finishing his papers and passing his exams at the end of the semester.
Post # 9
Absolutely. I love the way he said he wants OP to ‘enjoy it’ . Sounds like she’s really enjoying it .
Post # 10
He is totally proposing to you on your birthday. He said that to throw you off.
My husband did the same. I was expecting him to propose on our weekend away to our favourite place. He said it isn’t happening this weekend as everyone will expect it! I thought ok, maybe next weekend and didn’t think anything of it. Anyway he asked me that weekend 😊
Post # 11
I was in a similar situation and it gets frustrating! Hindsight is 20/20 so take it from me, let it go. Enjoy being in your relationship as bf/gf because once you’re engaged, you’ll never get that time back. Be kind to yourself and let your timeline playout as you both have agreed too. Trust and believe that you’ll laugh at how crazy you felt while waiting. It will happen before you know it!
Post # 12
I am living the same scenario as you right now! Ring was purchased in June and I am awaiting a proposal. Today is our 4 year anniversary and I’m HOPING it will be today but lord knows I don’t want to get excited just to be disappointed…..
I’m basically following along to get the same advice you’ve asked for since I also need it. Best of luck!
Post # 13
I know it’s hard, but try to take your mind off of it, girly.
I’m in the same boat as you. Boyfriend has had the ring since July and I know it’s hidden somewhere in our tiny apartment. I can’t understand what is taking him SO LONG to propose, but I know that the proposal itself means a lot to him. And our engagement/marriage isn’t just about me. It’s also about him, so I’m forcing myself to be patient.
Post # 14
He has a ring, he gave you a timeline. It sounds like he has something really specific and special planned. I know waiting sucks… but you are waiting under the best circumstances. it will happen… enjoy this final time as bf/gf 🙂
Post # 15
My fiance had the ring for 6 months (and I knew about it, he told me when he got it and I was involved in picking it out) before he proposed. After about 2 months I started getting irritated. After 4 months we argued about it. After that I did my very best to let it go. He proposed a week and a half ago. I heard the same as lot of the PPs – he was waiting for his moment, this was his part, etc. It didn’t make me any less irritated that it took him 6 months, to be honest.