He's had the ring for 11 months!

posted 2 years ago in Waiting
Post # 46
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Bumble bee

mtrinh1 :  Um, no. If someone wants to marry someone else and it’s been discussed at length, the person doesn’t wait ELEVEN MONTHS merely to make it “special.” He doesn’t really, at rock bottom, want to get married. Plain and simple. 

Post # 47
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beejaymes :  

I’d have to wait so he could plan the perfect proposal as he wanted me to have a story to tell the rest of my life. 

You know this is nonsense don’t you  OP? you are a woman of sense , with his child  and another on the way you have reapeatedly said what you want and what you want is not some damn story about where and when and how he proposed . (Any  story  like that would in any case warrant  an acid coda to the effect that well,  it was 11 years after we met,  so ……) 

As pps have said, I think you have to decide if you want to be a single mother of 2 or  not, because this guy is happier seeing you cry and get terribly distressed and humiliated than having his surprise spoiled,  ffs. 

If you can,   put it on the back burner for a litle  while for now , not good for you or the comimg baby if you are so unhappy and stressed. However I’d still tell him that the future  is contingent on  committment .    Frankly , I ‘d tell him forget about the engagement  and that  the best surprise  and future ‘story’  would be that he had planned a courthouse house date for after Easter.   This Easter. .  

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