- 4 years ago
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years and have lived together for 3. We farm together and I work from home on my own schedule in between farm duties, so we are together constantly and work really well together. We also show cattle and this past show season in November he bought the ring (I did not know at the time).
It is now the end of March and I had found the ring in February in a terrible hiding place. As soon as I seen it I knew exactly when he had gotten it. So being a good month of me knowing where it was, of course I kept looking at it and yes it lead to me trying it on lol. It ended up being too small. The ring is a western style wide band made by a silversmith and it’s exactly what I wanted, but it doesn’t have a real diamond, which is fine by me because I love the ring and I don’t think he needs to spend a fortune on it, and I know the ring is still expensive enough.
Anyways, we got in a pretty big fight, and I had never ever made any hints towards me knowing he had a ring, but he somehow knew that I knew and he sat there for half an hour and never let up making me admit that I knew he had a ring. I asked why he had passed up so many perfect-for-us proposals and he broke down and said it was because he didn’t think the ring was good enough as it didn’t have a real diamond. And that he didn’t want other people to laugh at him over it. So since it was all down the crap chute anyways I told him it was too small so maybe he would get it sized proper before he proposes.
A week or 2 later I ask him not to tell me any details but I was wondering if the silversmith could resize it or if he would do anything about it. (Keep in mind it’s not from a regular jeweller as it was hand made by a western silversmith.) My boyfriend tells me no he hasn’t asked the silversmith yet. And I know it wasn’t a lie to cover anything up, he just shrugged everything off and put it off to the side and hasn’t thought about it.
I am just getting so frustrated with all of this and the resentment over the subject is starting to hit. I can’t understand why he would pass up so many perfect opportunities, one of which he knows would have been my dream proposal.