Post # 1
Talking with my SO tonight we bring up our upcoming trip. He asked what I really wanted to do when we got there..what beaches to hit if we were going to kayak..stuff like that. So I say, are you really going to ask me to marry you or are we just going to talk about it? and I laughed. He said, Oh no i mean it little miss…all jokes..
We’ve talked about doing the ring thing backwards and getting a band now and a big diamond down the road or for the wedding. We did look at rings though and made a wishlist for a few places. Well we have a friend we went to highschool with at Kay jewelers and wanted to give her the commission.
Fast forward…He says I hope you like that ring that was top on ur list at Kay’s…I looked at him odd and said uhhh noooo i don’t like any of those. Remember we talked about it and I really just want a solitaire or something but none of those. (I swear ladies we talked about it and decided to trash that list) He looks at me and was like umm you don’t like that one? I hope you do! I replied…nope..umm u didn’t buy it did you? He was really vague and then ended up saying no, no i didn’t buy it…
WTF ladies?! He’s joking right?! What am I supposed to do? I mean if he did buy it the girl is our friend so we can fix it..I’m just baffeled and don’t know if I should beleieve him.
Then he said give this topic a rest and let him make his move. I said so when can I re-approach? He said give me a couple of weeks… What the heck does that mean? Super hesitant to jump to conclusions and think that he means he’s going to ask within the next couple of weeks. I can share this with you ladies because I won’t be embarrassed when I was wrong and he didn’t mean he was going to ask then lol.
I guess I just had to share..and be patient..more..patient…This is hard! I have been hoping for a proposal since he earned his bachelors almost 2 years ago!!
Post # 3
From the info you have I really have no idea what his plans are or if he’s already bought something, I think you’re just going to have to be patient and wait and see. But if you two have discussed what rings you like I would just drop the subject for awhile (longer than just a couple of weeks) and let him take care of this one, unless he asks for more help.
Post # 4
Yup, I think he bought the one you didn’t want. But I bet he exchanges it now, LOL. Don’t get your hopes too far up, but IMO, it is coming soon, or at least as soon as he can exchange that ring. Try to sit back and be patient (as hard as it is), he obviously has something, some time, already in mind so let him do that for you. Gosh, patience sucks.
Post # 5
@TequilaSunrise:Then he said give this topic a rest and let him make his move. I said so when can I re-approach? He said give me a couple of weeks… What the heck does that mean?
It means give it a rest for a couple weeks that’s all. 🙂 He probably doesn’t want to be talking about it constantly while he’s trying to make plans.
Post # 6
@claireos: Agh ur right! lol. He also said he didn’t want to give away what his moves were. This is soooo hard because he’s always so open. I guess that the point though. It’s a darn surprise…really special…yea yea yea lol..
Obviously I can’t wait! But in light of the obvious and what you all are saying..I should hush and let him do his thing.
Post # 7
@TequilaSunrise: You have anything else to concentrate on for the time being? Christmas? Vacations? Decorating your house? School? I understand being excited. I’ve probably asked my guy 5 times a week for the last 3 weeks if my Christmas present is awesome. (He’s since decided to give me a hard time about it and tell me I’m not getting anything now ) But I totally get it. Thing is is there are things you can bug ppl about and things you can’t. This is one of them that you can’t. If you can resist, I just wouldn’t talk about it anymore. He’s obviously making plans. If a few weeks from now you feel like bursting maybe ask him when he wants to get married, or where, or something wedding related that isn’t “when/how are you proposing” directed.
Post # 8
@claireos: You have a good point. That seems to be my problem. My semester just ended and I’m finding way to much time on my hands! Thank goodness Christmas is right around the corner, then New Years, and vacation.
Glad I posted. I knew you gals would be able to suggest some things for me to stay calm during my wait:) Thank you!!!