(Closed) He’s Late…

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

So it’s almost a year that this is happening? Girl, you have patience!!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@GwenvonD:

OH! LOL! Because I would have died of suspense by now! Sounds promising!!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

I totally get that. Sometimes you aren’t looking for advice. Sometimes you just want to just put out your point to the universe out-loud (so to speak) because whatever is going on is weird.

My theory? If he finally jumped on board lasr September he might have been out doing research, getting an idea of what rings would cost, what he would even want to buy. Because if you don’t know what you want to get you don’t know what needs to be saved. And perhaps now that it’s coming up on a year later he has the money to make the purchase and is going back to see if what he’s looking for is still available.

Maybe? ๐Ÿ™‚ But good for you for giving him time and being so awesome about his odd behavior. ๐Ÿ™‚ It’s funny how guys think they’re sneaky.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

sounds promising.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

i don’t know much about you, him or the relationship. but from just that story it seems that he might be venturing out or seeing someone else… that behavior seems really abnormal in my eyes but of course i don’t know what normal is for your relationship. does it take a lot of trips to the mall to buy a ring or look at them?…. rings don’t change that often.  my ears would definitely be perking up if this was going on with me. this was not intended on making you upset or angry just a different perspective. 

 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

I don’t necessarily think the is being unfaithful, but his behavior is odd and off-putting. Does it bother you that he is sort of sneaky?

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

unfortunately, i’m so bad when it comes to stuff like this… i’ve been cheated on in the past and in my gut i always knew something was out of place and i was always right. typically, if things seem really odd and things don’t add up, i.e. misleading, hiding things, etc, i always assume that someone is being unfaithful. (why else hide something unless it’s something you realllllly don’t want me to know…

for example, my SO (who i love dearly) went to the gym for 3 hours yday… which is not typical AT ALL… left while i slept (i work the night shift) and came back 3 hours later while i was suppose to be asleep. (this post makes it sound like im this controlling gf, but i’m not…. i didn’t even say anything until that evening. i wait to let him tell me the truth. and if i don’t hear the truth, for example, i was only gone for an hour when i know it was 3, then something is not right) anyways,the gym is 5 minutes away, YOU WERE NOT AT THE GYM FOR 3 #$#*$* hours! LOL he was researching concert tickets and surprised me with them. so not all odd things mean *cheating*. with that said, i would do my own research, catching them in the truth…or lies.

at first i felt bad for not trusting someone by checking to make sure their story plays out or the texts they were sending are really going to a friend. i won’t do it behind their back, i will tell them upfront, i’m concerned about you being on the phone and hiding it from me, texting in the bathroom, and deleting your messages, could you please bring up your account so i can stop thinking a million bad things because your behavior seems strange. if they truly have nothing to hide then it wouldn’t be a big deal to bring it up. if they fight it and they turn the situation around (using reverse psychology) by making you sound like the bad guy because you don’t trust them, something is not right. you’re not the bad guy. 

it also depends on how you approach the situation. you know what will work best for you.  but if i were you i would get to the bottom of this.  the mall only has so many e-rings and they don’t change on a daily basis. but you will know you and your own gut feeling… just stick with it. if it turns out that he’s looking for an e-ring, then HAPPY FOR YOU ๐Ÿ™‚

 

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

good for you! can’t wait to see your e-ring >< 

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Men are stupid at trying to be sneaky! We can always tell when they are planning something!

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