Post # 1
My fiance and I talked about the name change, and it didn’t take long for us to come to the descision that he’s going to take my last name. I know this is VERY rare, and I was wondering if there was anyone else on here that was doing the same thing?
Reasons we decided this…
-He doesn’t like his last name, and feels no connection to it whatsoever
-I am considered the last of my family line (I have a brother, but the likelyhood og him getting married and/or having children is almost zilch. Reasons.)
-I feel very connected to my last name
-I don’t want the complications of a hyphenated name
-We don’t want to make up a new name
-His last name sounds TERRIBLE with my first name. I am not even kidding. I said it out loud once, and we both went “No. We need to find a better option.”
-My last name sounds better with his first name than his current last name does.
Now my only question is, if I am currently Miss Pond, would I become Ms. Pond, or Mrs. Pond?
Post # 3
Nothing wrong with it at all! Assuming the last name of the husband is a custom, not a law! We are thinking of doing the same thing!
Post # 4
Personally I might try to stick with Ms., because I am not sure I like that it changes based on my marital status, but I think if you like the Mrs. you should feel free to use it!
Post # 4
I would assume you’re a Mrs. And it makes extra-sense if he’s Mr. Pond that you’d be Mrs.
Mrs. Pond and Mr. Puddle is still proper (I think that’s how it goes if you keep your individual names), but if you’re both Pond, then it really makes since that you’d be Mrs.
Post # 6
i think Mrs. implied you are married, no matter what you do with your last name….i think.
Post # 7
I think that is amazing of your Fiance. I guess you still become a Mrs lol. I wish my SO would do this since I love my last name and his last name well is his moms last name. I’m glad it worked out for you two and it’ll be interesting to see if anyone else has this arrangement with their SO.
Post # 9
@dynamic_duo: Agreed. I think the Mrs implies that you are married, no matter what your last name is.
Post # 10
That’s awesome! I love to hear stories like this. I’d go by Ms. myself (why does the woman change her title and her last name when she gets married, but there is no similar change for me? sigh), but I believe Mrs. Pond would be correct.
Post # 11
@kay01: I could be wrong, but I *think* it used to change for men, too. Boys and young men used be ‘Master Puddle’ and then when they became men or married they were Mr. Still, I think they could be Mr. without being married just by getting older, but I think that is sort of like the variation of Miss to Ms./Mrs. with age or marriage.
Post # 12
@dynamic_duo: yes, this!
Mrs. simply means married. Regardless of whose last name you have! 😉
Post # 13
how neat?! i think this is wonderful! what a fantastic idea for the two of you, especially for those reasons!
Post # 14
My fiance is rather amused that he’s been dubbed “Mr. Puddle.” Thanks for the input! I’ll probably use Mrs. Pond simply because it will denote marriage.
I will try to convince Mr. Harbinger (his own chosen name) to join the hive, but he’s busy doing SCIENCE! right now. So unfair. Here I am, stuck doing regular boring science, while he gets to do the exciting stuff.
Post # 15
Yes indeed I was busy doing SCIENCE! However I finished that up for now so I decided to come check this place out.
Honestly, I not only don’t care much for my family name, I also don’t care much for my family. Orion’s family is much easier to be with and get along with for me. So yeah, I would prefer to take her name.
The only real downside to this is that my full name currently is 1 letter too long for my driver’s liscence, and Orion’s last name is longer than my current one, so thats going to be fun to try and fit on legal documents…