(Closed) He’s taking my last name…

posted 9 years ago in Names
Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m jealous! I’ve been trying to convince my Fiance to change to my last name. There are only three men in the family with my last name. My cousin is in his 30s and doesnt have a girlfriend, my other cousin is married in his 30s and they are having trouble trying to conceive. My brother will never have any children or get married.I feel like our direct line ends there. I’m proud of my father and his accomplishments, I’m also proud of his family line and where they have come from. It bothers me I can’t keep my last name and have to change to his last name that everyone pronounces wrong

Post # 32
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Newbee

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@bbutterfly: That’s a shame to hear that he was laughed at for being willing to take your last name. I don’t see what’s so terrible about a man changing his last name. I think it’s kind of a nice tradition, but I don’t think it’s okay for people to ridicule you for a decision like that. Thankfully, my friends are pretty cool and understanding. I haven’t told mey parents yet though. I get the feeling they wont entirely approve, but it’s my decision in the end.

And if any of my friend’s /do/ have an issue with it, I don’t really care. They can do whatever they want if and when they get married. Orion and I are the only ones getting married to each other and we have talked it over and come to a decision.

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I have a couple friends who got married and he took her last name.  It was because he had his identity stolen though, and it was just easier to switch names than deal with all the legal battles.

Post # 34
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5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

Mrs. I think. And besides that I think that is awesome!!! I tried so hard to convince Fiance to do this… I did not win lol 

Post # 36
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m jealous – I wish more men were open to taking their fiance’s last name! I think this is a wonderful idea – and I think it’s up to you if you go by “Ms.” or “Mrs.”

Post # 37
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I think this is an awesome idea! I’ve played around with this before, but since my (soon to be) fiance’s last name carries a lot of pride for him, I really want to carry on his last name. I understand how some people could see this as a unique approach, but there is nothing “wrong” or “weird” about it at all. Go for it! Also, to me, the Mrs. would be a good idea, but only if you feel right about that. 🙂

Edit: not that Mrs is any better than Ms, but that’s just me personally.

Post # 38
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83 posts
Worker bee

Good for you for choosing the option that fit your situation best 🙂 I personally would go with Ms. whether I kept my last name or not (I’m keeping), simply because I have very strong feelings about how only women’s titles reveal their marital status (although I will be a doctor once I finish my Ph.D. so that won’t matter :P). However, I’d go with whatever you like best, I don’t think there’s a rule 🙂

Post # 39
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Sugar bee

I’m glad you found an option that works for the both of you! I would say go for Mrs. Pond, because like PPs said, regardless of name it still indicates that you’re married.

Post # 41
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74 posts
Worker bee

I teased my husband about doing that before we got married since he has actually already had 3 different lastnames already in his life and I only have one sister so our lastname ends with us but he squashed that idea fast.  I did take his lastname.

Post # 42
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Oh I use Ms. for those I am unsure of marital status. I use Ms. for myself right now. I am going to let it go either way. For more professional settings I prefer Ms actually, and for more personal Mrs. 

I am so excited for you, that is wonderful, for those reasons I completely understand. I like it when its well thought out. No there is nothing wrong doing things for tradition, but sometimes that reason just strkes me as sort of bland. Especially when it comes to the assumption that the woman will change her name upon marriage. I have told a few people, that we are hyphenating, and only one freaked (my maternal Grandmother actually). 

I think this is good for you. I’m very happy. 

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