(Closed) He’s the one for me, but I need one more thing before the ring (long)

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@WaitingweddingBE: I read your post, and I had to comment. I don’t know if what I have to say will prove helpful or not but I’m going to try 🙂

My Fiance and I met when I was 19, and like you, not looking for anything (and CERTAINLY not for anything this serious!). He is older than me, and was definitely much more ready for the commitment than I was. When we were together for about two years we took a break, which I imposed because I basically had a “I’m too young for something so serious” freak out.

I know it’s different from your situation, but I felt exactlly as youd id: I wanted to call him and take it all back ten minutes after he wlak out the door! It certainly didn’t help that I did it over Xmas!

What I’m getting at is this: remember the reasons you took the break and use the time to really think about what you want. You expect that of him, I’m sure, so do it for him, but also for yourself. It’s always so easy to romanticize things when you are away from them, but I can’t stress enough how important it is to really think about what you want for YOU. Sometimes you have to be selfish, you know?

A break is definitely not akin to a break up, by SO and I just got enagged this past weekend! Sometimes people (guys and girls) need to see what they could lose to really appreciate it…..that’s what happened for me!

I know you weren’t really asking for advice, but I’m going to offer it anyways and tell you to stay strong, and give it at least a week, minimum. If you need support we are all here. I really think from everything you’ve said that he truelly is crazy about you, and he just needs a little sense knocked into him 😉

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