(Closed) He’s trying to gain weight, I’m trying to lose it!

posted 8 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Are you balancing your diet with grains, protein, dairy, fruits, and vegetables?  Other than that, the best thing would probably just to make sure that you stay with smaller portions that him, sometimes girls want to eat as much as their SO does but guys need more food than women even when they aren’t trying to gain weight.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I would make relatively healthy meals for the both of you, but perhaps add a side of pasta, rice, or bread to his meals and you can omit it. Also, focus on your portion size and serve him with twice as much. You can even buy those protein shakes for him to drink after a meal. Good luck!

Post # 5
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Also, protein paired with working out could help him build more muscle mass (muscle is denser than fat so if you increase your muscle mass you weigh more).

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Why don’t you just eat the same things–healthy meals, but have him add one of those “fatty shakes” (well that’s what i call them) you can get at GNC? My husband used to drink them and they are like 1800 calories for one.

In my experience it’s really tough to say “here’s your bread…but i don’t get any…” so I’ve stopped making bread for my husband. Sometimes we split a roll. But typically our dinner is no starches–just protein and a veggie. If he wants one, he gets one AFTER we’re done with dinner.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

That’s sort of life’s conundrum.. he can stop eating sweets and lose weight, and you have to work your butt off. 

We almost always have different meals – simply because I’m a veggie, and he isn’t..  One way to add some extra calories with out making the meal “unhealthy” is to add carbs.  Pasta, rice, bread.  Each serving adds an extra 100-200 calories, but it isn’t as unhealthy as telling him to eat sweets.

So if you have a grilled chicken and veggies, have him add a side of brown rice (150 cals) or add some pasta to his veggies (one serving can be an extra 180-220 cals).

Also, oil add healthy calories and fat.. olive oil, peanut oil, sesame or sunflower oil.. you could use it to cook his meals, or season his veggies – so extra calories w/o harm.

Also, some veggies are naturally higher in calories.  A half of an avocado is 150-160 cals, where as an entire cucumber is about 30 calories.. so maybe stack his plate with higher calorie veggies.

This is assuming he wants to add them in a healthy way.. if not, tell him to eat some donuts.. 🙂 good luck!

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Ugh I am in the EXACT same situation. Fiance is like 6’3″ and I don’t recall how much he weighs but he’d like to weigh more. He eats crap (and lots of it) and I eat so much better and yet I’m always trying to gain weight. I don’t have a solution.

Post # 10
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2856 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I agree with ejs on this one too. My hubs and I were in the same situation, me trying to lose weight and the hubs (6’3 180ish) was trying to gain a little muscle weight. We made the same healthy meals but I ate smaller portions and he added a protein shake to his diet for his snack or after workout shake. Just make sure he does his research on these. Some of them can be high in fat / calories/ carbs. I wish I could remember the brand my brother (cert. personal trainer) has suggested for the hubs.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We’re in the same situation too.  I’ve been trying to lose some weight for awhile, he just recently started to try to gain.  The foods that I cook for us hasn’t changed at all.  I have always cooked healthy foods, there’s always a protein, some kind of veggie, whole wheats, etc.  He does eat much larger portions but if anything, he drinks lots more milk than I ever would in one day.

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