(Closed) He's upset that I enjoyed having my Family over for Thanksgiving

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 31
4161 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Ugh, everything about your post makes me sick to my stomach.  You need to leave this man.  He is an insecure, jealous, emotional and verbal abusive idiot.  It can and will esculate and you need to get out while you can.

My ex was very similar to your husband and my life was miserable.  I’m very lucky to have a husband who’s a complete 180 of my ex and I would NEVER look back.


Post # 32
2058 posts
Buzzing bee

Seeing your previous posts I realize how serious this is. Your husband is emotionally abusive. Do you have anywhere you can go? This kind of controlling angry behavior is not normal. You don’t have to live like this.

Post # 33
1980 posts
Buzzing bee

I agree with everyone else. Your husband is disturbed, irrational, and controlling. He is abusive.

There is NO REASON for you to live this way. Please leave him.

Post # 34
542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Agree with PPs, this is so scary!!! I saw in your previous post that you were going to a therapist and developing and exit plan.  That is an EXCELLENT idea and I hope that you are still going to therapy and developing that exit plan.  This is so unhealthy.  It makes me so sad when you said that your sister probably won’t come back to your home.  It sounds like you are close and she is a great support for you and now she is no longer able to come over.  That is a direct result of what your husband has done.  He is cutting you off from your support system so you feel like there is nobody in the world but him.  Leave while you still have a relationship with people outside of your marriage.  Unfortunately, that window is closing rapidly.  Good luck OP, stay safe and keep us updated if you can!

Post # 35
3064 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

shakazulu:  Your husband sounds insane. Jealous of you over your ‘chemistry’ with your sister? WTF?

Also I know some siblings aren’t close, but siblings are the people who (normally) know you inside and out- you share the same DNA in most cases and were raised the same!!  Of course you will have a ‘chemistry’

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 11 months ago by  Boxerlover24.
Post # 36
2418 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Um. Well then.

I think there is something much deeper going on with your husband and would also suggest counseling.

My Fiance and I don’t really deal with each other’s families a lot unless we are at a family event or it is someone’s birthday. It isn’t that we don’t like each other’s families, it is just that it is so much easier if I deal with my people and he deals with his.

Post # 37
381 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

The whole thing is weird to me.  I am very close with my sister, and my husband is nothing but supportive.  Having other relationships/friendships is healthy for your marriage.  Is he really possessive or jealous?  

Post # 38
684 posts
Busy bee

shakazulu:  This sounds so strange. My siblings never call my Fiance and I would think its weird if they called him directly and not me. His sister doesnt call me to chat unless they are already talking on the phone.

It sounds like he is in love with or something. Why does he want to be so involved in knowing whats going on in her life? Who cares if she is travelling.. or dating someone or has a new job ? whats it to him ??


Is he an only child? Does he act this way when you are with other girlfriends?


Post # 39
2776 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I’m with whitepeacock:  amanda3334455:  on this one. These are major red flags indicative of a very abusive relationship where you either get out now, end up in the hospital or leave your home in a body bag.

Post # 40
339 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

This is not normal. It almost sounds like he could have a crush on your sister, OP. You need to talk to him.

Post # 41
2600 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

What, what now? 


I love people who my Darling Husband loves and love him in return. I love anyone who makes my Darling Husband happy. Because I love seeing him happy. 


If your Darling Husband can’t feel that way for you, then he’s not okay. 

Post # 42
1488 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

shakazulu:  your husband sounds extremely insecure and controlling. He wants to be in touch with her to control the situation. This is bonkers!

Post # 43
1891 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

WOW that behavior is so unattractive to me. He needs to put his big boy pants on when mommy can’t give him 110% of your attention 

Post # 44
1556 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

shakazulu:  Honestly, I don’t call my sister’s husband often and definitely never call my cousins’ spouses. I also don’t call my husband’s family to just chat unless I need to. I like them just fine, I just didn’t grow up calling people to chat, plus, my husband talks with his family & we share information on our respective families with the other. 

It is completely normal to not be buddy-buddy with in-laws.

Post # 45
10878 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State


This.  I’m concerned that he is trying to isolate you from your family.  That’s a huge red flag.  How is he with your friends?

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