(Closed) He's upset that I enjoyed having my Family over for Thanksgiving

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 76
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Bumble bee

Good for you! And be strong. Be prepared for him to try crawling back to you, acting like a changed man. Don’t buy into it, you did the right thing!

Post # 77
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

shakazulu:  I’m not really sure if “congratulations” is an appropriate thing to say here, but like PP’s I’ll say you did the right thing and this is absolutely the best descision you could have made. I really admire your strength, and if you need any support I think it’s pretty obvious you’ll always get it here on the Bee.

Post # 78
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1980 posts
Buzzing bee

shakazulu:  You did the right thing, 100%. Don’t let him manipulate his way back into your life, you’re SO much better off. Best of luck, keep us updated!

Post # 79
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

Wow, I am glad that the issue with your sister arose. If this man has cut you off from all other friends, he is likely borderline (physically) abusive. It is clear that he is emotionally abusive already. You did NOTHING wrong in this situation, which you already know. Any partner worth having should encourage strong family bonds and time with friends, IMO. A partner should be an addition to your life, not expect to BE your entire life. 

He will try to guilt you into coming back, and then he will try to covince you he will change. He won’t. Please don’t go back.

Post # 80
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015 - country club in Michigan

shakazulu:  Good job–your husband sounds like an incredibly insecure, emotionally abusive jerk. Look for counseling for yourself, it’ll help get you back on your feet and in a good place to pursue new, more healthy relationships in the future. 

Post # 81
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

I will say congratulations on starting your new life!  It will be hard for awhile, but the best is yet to come.

Stay safe.

Gentle cyberhugs to you & your boy.

Post # 82
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339 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I am very happy that you walked out. Good luck!

Post # 83
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Honey bee

You’re so strong- good for you! Good luck to you and your son.

Post # 84
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I am so happy to read that you left…please do not go back. No matter what he says to try to get you to go back, DO NOT GO BACK.

I hope that you and your son are able to build a fantastic life that is full of happiness!

 

Post # 85
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2016

Good luck to you and your son! You definitely did the right thing. Stay safe!

Post # 86
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662 posts
Busy bee

Ive been lurking on your post since i last posted and im happy to hear you left! You did the best thing for yourself and most imporntant, for your son. Growing up with a male figure like your husbands is the worst thing for a child because they might grow up and treat others how your husband was treating you or they might attract people that are like your husband. My mom was in an abusive relationship and i grew up watching her be abused and when i was in high school i had a very abusive boyfriend. Luckily i was able to break that cycle early in my life but still…100 percent the right decision you made. It will be hard at first but it will get easier. Stay strong!

Post # 87
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Busy bee

Well done! He will probably try to get you back but he will not change. You did the right thing for you and your son. Please keep us posted. 

Post # 88
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Yes, Op.  Please do keep us updated.  There are plenty of Bees monitoring this thread for updates because we care.

Post # 89
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

shakazulu:  That is great news. He sounds like an awful person to live with and mentally unstable. Please don’t take him back.

Post # 90
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768 posts
Busy bee

Great to hear, OP. You did the right thing for you and your son. Be strong you can do this! 

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