Hesitant to invite certain family members

posted 1 year ago in Guests
  • poll: If you were hesitant about inviting certain family members, what did you do/what would you do?
    Invite them, they are family : (0 votes)
    Don't invite them, who cares if they are family : (14 votes)
    93 %
    Idk that's tough : (1 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    9670 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    Both my husband and I cut family members from the guest list. I cut my uncle and his family because they treat my grandparents horribly and have never bothered to get to know me or show they care. My husband cut his mom’s sister from the list because she is on drugs and has been known to steal from his family in the past.

    Things turned out just fine. No one cared that we didn’t invite these family members and since we are not close to them at all we didn’t have to deal with drama from them. We have no regrets about not including these people on our wedding day.

    Post # 3
    Member
    2299 posts
    Buzzing bee

    strawberrybee26 :  it will be your wedding day…no room for dysfunction!! Drugs should be an immediate disqualification for *any* guest!

    Post # 4
    Member
    6155 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2016

    I wouldn’t invite them and I wouldn’t feel badly about it. You don’t have time or space to be worrying about people who have already shown that they can and will act a fool in public and drugs are an instant disqualification.

    I have a cousin who was in a relationship with a dirtbag when I got married. They’d been together for years (so I couldn’t hope they would break up before the wedding). He’d gotten into disputes with various family members and generally shown himself to be an all around piece of shit. I love her and would have loved to have her there but her partnership choices meant no invite for them. Too bad, so sad.

    I would leave both of them off the invite list, consider it done and move on.

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