Post # 1
A “friend” who’s getting married soon and whose wedding invitation is a public facebook event (with a few hundred people invited but an open invitation so any of their friends can RSVP, I think — I wasn’t tagged in it (we barely know each other) but I can see it) just posted her online registry as an FB status.
She’s been sharing every last wedding detail on FB, as is her norm, but I’m wondering, does this cross any lines for anyone?
I just smiled (OK, and looked at what she’s asking for) because I am not attending, but what do you all think? Does it make any difference that she’s been public with every other aspect of the wedding and apparently isn’t being very formal about the guest list?
Post # 3
While I would never do it, if it offends someone they can just not look and not buy anything for them. I don’t see why people get their panties all in a wad about stuff like this.
Post # 4
To each his own. But… yuck. FB brings out the worst in some people, for sure.
Post # 5
If EVERYTHING she’s doing is on FB then it’s just her doing what she does. I think posting everything on FB is tacky not just the registry. I don;t think it’s some sort of gift grab since you said she just post things. And low and behold you went to look at it.
Post # 6
@Atalanta: +1.. I think posting every detail of your wedding (or life) on fb is pretty obnoxious – I can’t think of one person who would care at all about the minute details of my wedding. I know you can just delete people who do that, or remove them from your newsfeed, but with all the ridiculous social politics on that stupid site it can be difficult.
Post # 8
@sanjessica: +1. While updating my registry, I saw the button to click to share with facebook. I was like, who would want to do this? I haven’t had many people ask where I was registered PLUS at the time it was less than 20 days from the wedding so I was starting to wonder, but then I thought if they wanted to know, they would ask. Hopefully this means gift cards and money and not any gifts.
Post # 9
@sanjessica: Yeah, I’m not deleting her for posting a lot of things some other people would choose to keep private, but I do wonder what compels it. It’s pretty entertaining, except when it’s not — and that’s when I stop reading and keep my mouth shut, ’cause it’s not my business to tell her what to do.
I don’t care to announce my judgment one way or another on how an individual chooses to use their own personal facebook feed, but this one post just tickled my etiquette funnybone.
Post # 10
Just think, not only will you get to hear all the details of the wedding and honeymoon…you get the bonus of hearing about the divorce…
Post # 11
@jmarvellous: lol I don’t blame you – I removed someone from my newsfeed when it went into her kids’ bowel movements – that’s like driving a truck into my etiquette funny bone if you ask me. But for a variety of reasons I can’t delete her.. bummer (pun intended)
@lindseyl06: yeah personally I’d rather get a crappy gift than blast my registry on facebook – but to each their own I guess. I just need to find ways to calm my rage when someone does something silly like that – I try to tell myself not to be so judgmental but sometimes it’s a like a reflex!
Post # 12
Convenient, if you’re invited to the wedding, I guess? Otherwise…looks gift grabby.
I try to keep my wedding posting to a minimum on Facebook, since a LOT of people on my friendslist aren’t invited. I do have an engaged friend who basically only ever posts about wedding stuff, though. :
Post # 13
@vorpalette: Heh, I have seen it all over the map, from people (mostly guys) who you don’t know are getting married until they change status to ‘married’ or post a wedding photo to people who post every cocktail napkin they’re considering.
So far, I’ve posted that I am engaged, added one ring photo when it came in, and (after a particularly flustered day) posted that I promise my ‘wedding brain’ will clear up soon. Oh, and one silly question (worst song you’ve heard at a wedding).
So I guess that’s about one post per month of engagement, which is not too far to one side or another (not that either extreme is ‘wrong’).
Post # 14
If she was posting everything about her wedding on FB, then I guess its fine. Not something I would do though. I’m not inviting everyone on FB to my wedding so I try to keep the wedding posts to a minimum.
ETA: Although I love to stalk other engaged couple’s registries, even if I’m not invited to their wedding, so I wouldn’t mind someone posting theirs to FB!
Post # 15
If she had put in her status something about what fun activity she was engaged in at the time such as, “At Macy’s with Fiance to choose our china pattern and linens!” instead of providing a generic link to all of her fb friends that, to many will scream, “Hey, if you want to buy us a wedding gift, just click here!” I wouldn’t find it to be bothersome. However, a link on a generic FB page (vs. a couple’s wedding website, where I think it’s perfectly fine) likely will come across to many people as being a bit pushy.
Post # 16
If everyone she is facebook friends with is invited then I don’t really think its tacky