Post # 1
I just had a really depressing talk with my parents who are footing the wedding bill.
Basically they told me that I was being selfish and bridezilla-like for giving any opinions.
Everyhting i say they yell at me about, and no matter how calm i try and stay they always say “well don’t complain you’re not having to dump thousands of dollars!”
The truth is bees, i’ve always imagine a beautiful small intimate wedding. Me and my fiancé was been together for seven years and we just want to be husband and wife. We want a small beachside wedding with close family. I wanted to be barefoot in the sand.
However, my mother is greek.. and i mean really greek and insists on having all 185 people in her immediate family (not including 2nd cousins).
In anycase.. stuff kind of blew up tonight and i’m just sitting at the table with my head in my hands feeling so sad and so down.
Post # 3
Then go with your small, intimate wedding! Honey, remember that this is your wedding and not your family’s. Talk with your fiance and decide what the two of you want. You will always regret it if you have your mom’s dream wedding and not your own.
Pour yourself a glass of wine and a hot bath and relaxxxxx. 🙂
Post # 4
If your parents are paying for the wedding then yes they do get a say it in, because it is their money. If you want to do it 100% your way, then you have to pay for it 100% yourselves.
Post # 5
@His Lil SantosGirl: Elope! Just the two of you. Then after that, let your parents throw you the big fat greek wedding.
Post # 6
Aww I’m sorry you’re being put i this position. i second the glass of wine and hot bath. And for what it’s worth, barefoot on the beach sounds amazing to me.
Post # 7
is there any way you could pay for your small, intimate wedding? i don’t know why your mother would complain about the cost if she’s the one institing on a huge wedding! you think she’d be thankful you wanted a small one. just try to talk to her the best you can, and try to get her to see that it’s your wedding day, and important to you. good luck hun, i hope you get through to her.
Post # 8
Don’t feel sad!! Wedding are stressful with the amount of money being spent. Its super nice for your parents to help with the paying but they need to understadn your wants and wishes as well. Maybe we can explain to them you are in no way trying to take advantage of their offer, but your ideas of the guest list (the largest expensive) was smaller and therefore there were certain other things you thought you could put money towards…Does that soun anything like what you are going through? Feel Better!!!!!!!!!
Post # 9
I am right there with you, sort of! My mom is footing the bill (can never say enough how much I appreciate it). BUT She has always invisioned a fancy sit down dinner and a church ceremony. We wanted to get married in a local cave/outdoor venue that used to be a night club (sounds dumb but google lost river cave weddings). She said it was too expensive and it would be hard to get my great grandma into the cave (WHAT??). THen later takes me to a see a very popular snotty hotel venue and we book it, then I find out how expensive it is, more than double the cave! nice mom! I am a very passive person so I basically said okey dokey and we are moving on, we know our wedding will be nice. We have agreed that being together and not stressing is more important than stressing. stinks but we’ll get over it!
Post # 10
If you are adult enough to get married, you are adult enough to have it your way.
ps- I’m Greek also. My wedding has 14 attendees.
Post # 11
For me it just isn’t worth it. I would rather have it my way and pay. (Which is what we ended up doing.)
Post # 12
I had the same problem with my wedding. If I could do it all over again I would have just spent our money on our wedding and had it the way I wanted. Can you not accept your parent’s money and then have your wedding your way?