(Closed) Hey guys…what's the point of engagement photos?

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Post # 3
9071 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Couldn’t tell you. I don’t understand engagement parties, either. They just sorta baffle me.

We’re having “engagement photos” done for free by our photographer since we weren’t in town (We’re getting married in California) when we got engaged, so we’re taking it as an opportunity for a fun photo shoot and less of a formal affair. I don’t know why people get engagement shoots, but to each their own!


Post # 4
8679 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

We had engagement photos done because:

1. They were included in our package

2. It gave us a chance to work with the photographer and get comfortable with her beforehand

3. We wanted pics for our STDs

4. We dont have many pics together since he is in the military and we are doing a photo montage at the reception

Post # 5
1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@BridieBea:  You got me. I’m not a fan. I think they’ve just been developed by the wedding industry to make brides spend even more $$ than they already are. I would way rather have lovely pics from my actual wedding hanging in my house than engagement pics.

Post # 6
753 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Seems to be to put them on the Save the Dates. We didn’t want our photos on the Save the Dates so once we removed photo oriented options…we were left with very little to choose from. 


Some couples also make their guest book a photobook of their engagment pictures and have everyone sign it. It’s actually a pretty affordable option depending on who you do it through. 


Engagmenet Photos were included in the cheapest package so we’re actually doing them. They’ll just be some nice photos of us more casually dressed. 

Post # 7
1769 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I truely don’t understand either. We didn’t get them done because we couldn’t figure out the point. It’s not like we’d want to display them around the house and we didn’t want photo save the dates.

Post # 8
977 posts
Busy bee

This is what I tell my clients:


Q:  Why Should We Take Engagement Photos?


A:  There are many reasons it is important to take engagement photos once you have become engaged.  Some couples may feel it’s a waste of time or is not necessity; however there are many valuable reasons why you will benefit from utilizing this opportunity.  Establishing a relationship with your photographer long before your wedding will make a big difference in the outcome of your wedding images.  I spend about an hour or two with my couples watching them, listening to them, having fun with them, getting to know them, and photographing them all at the same time.  I take note of how they interact with each other, their individual personalities, and even their quirks.  These mental notes, along with many other conscious and subliminal thoughts help me to capture and photograph images on the wedding day that are unique to that couple.


Have your engagement photos taken at a location that is important to the two of you.  This could be a place you got engaged or had a first date.  It could be at a place you both like to spend time, or something you like to do together such as a shared interest.  Some locations my clients have taken me are to their hometowns, the college where they met, a favorite restaurant or bar, a museum, the zoo, a movie theater, or as simply as the home(s) where they live.


The benefit for you is, your images will mean more to you than if your photographer took you to the park and snapped a few pictures.  You might also feel more at ease in an environment you are familiar with. The other benefit is you get to know your photographer and see how he or she works and you will get to see images of yourselves long before the wedding.


The advantage of this is that you can let your photographer know ahead of time if there are shots or angles you do not care for, also you can let your photographer know the things that you do like.  Communication is key.

 Another thing you might want to think of doing is having your hair and make-up test done on the same day as your engagement session.  This way you get to see how your hair and make-up look in photos and you can let your hair and makeup people know if there is anything you would like to change before the wedding.  I can promise you once you see your engagement images and you are excited about them you will have more confidence in yourselves and in your photographer.  On the wedding day you will look forward to having your picture taken instead of dreading the thought of having a camera pointed at you all day.


Whatever you choose to do, I encourage you to get creative, go out with your photographer, have fun and create great images.  In the end you are the ones who win.

Post # 9
11161 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

Our package came with an engagement photo session and I felt it was very helpful in getting to know our angles that looked best and the overall style of the photographer. At first it was very awkward and I would have hated for that to have been the case on our wedding day. After the engagement shoot we were both very comfortable being photographed making the big day that much easier.

If it is in a package I say go with it. Who doesn’t want awesome and professional photos of themselves? I wouldn’t pay extra for it though.

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@jmaze:  Have your engagement photos taken at a location that is important to the two of you.  This could be a place you got engaged or had a first date

I completely agree. MY DH and I were engaged in Yosemite National Park and it is a very special place to us and my family…I grew up going there twice a year and now my DH and I carry on this tradition. While we didn’t want to deal with the crazy details involved in planning an elaborate wedding there we did love the idea of having our engagement photos shot within the valley. They turned out so gorgeous (how could we go wrong with such scenery) and the experience meant a great deal to us. Very good point!

Post # 10
195 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

We got engagement photos done because FH and I are super awkward in front of the camera, so we though we would get some practice in and get comfortable with our photographer. I’m so glad we did! We now feel totally at ease with our photographer. Also, we had cute pics to put on our save the dates and have a gorgeous canvas hanging above our bed!

Post # 11
159 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

We’re planning on having engagement photos done in the week after the engagement (only know because it’s a 2 week window between him being here and me moving in with him) because we have 0 nice pictures together.  I think there are maybe 3 and they’re all jokey/goofy/weird and I’d like some nice ones to put up and use on STDs.

I love photography as a hobby and a woman I took a few classes with is opening her own business so I could use her or might even try doing them myself.  

As for engagement parties?  Not a huge fan but we might have one with my SO’s family because I’ve only met maybe 15% of them and it’d be nice to meet them all before the wedding.

Post # 12
950 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@BridieBea:  We almost didn’t have engagement photos done, but it was included in our photo package.. so why not?

Here’s how they’ve come in handy

1. we have beautiful pro pics of us as a couple – best pics we’ve had taken of us!

2. we used them for our save the dates

3. we will blow up and frame one photo with an extra thick matting to use as our wedding guestbook

4. we used the photo for our 2012 Christmas cards

5. looking at them fills me with glee

Post # 13
10354 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

We wanted nice pictures of us in non-wedding clothes. We also used them for our Save the Dates. Also allowed us to make sure we really clicked with our photog!

Post # 14
5217 posts
Bee Keeper

We did them and used the photos for save the dates, wedding related things ( framed at our shower, a pic used by the guest book). We printed a few of them for moms & dads to have, we also framed our favorite and hung it up in the house. 

I liked doing them, DH liked doing them because he can be camera shy, and in the end we had some great pictures. 


Post # 15
72 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Initially, I didn’t want engagement photos. At all. Didn’t think they were necessary, and I’m not very comfortable in front of the camera. Then my photographer explained to me that especially because I’m not comfortable in front of the camera that it was extra important to get them. It’s kind of like a “practice session” before your wedding pictures. That way you and your photographer have already shot together, she/he knows your personality, and what kinds of photos suit you. She said it woul be like a practice before the “big game.” She was totally right. I was a little rigid at first, but she made us feel more comfortable in front of the camera, and by the end of the night I felt so much better about spending a whole day getting our photos taken (at the wedding). It was also included as part of our package, so I couldn’t argue getting cute pictures taken of us for free.


And what’s more, the photos turned out so well they were JUST blogged about on Project Wedding!  http://www.projectwedding.com/blog/2013/01/24/colorful-county-fair-engagement-session-by-look-here-photography/

So I went from “awkward in front of the camera” to “still pretty awkward, but at least fairly bloggable” within one evening! (My fiance is a natural, By The Way, he has no shyness in front of the camera, at all).

Post # 16
2755 posts
Sugar bee

I really like the idea of having some nice professional pictures taken around the time we get engaged. Wedding pictures are one thing, but it’d be great to just have some fun photos you know?

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