(Closed) Hey guys…what's the point of engagement photos?

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Post # 17
5622 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I guess they make sense if you are doing picture STD’s, otherwise I really don’t get them either. I won’t be doing them.

Post # 18
1797 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

…hmm what’s the point?  That’s a funny question.  Honestly there doesn’t seem to be much point to anything in the wedding world other than to have fun and indulge.


We had them taken, It was really one of the most fun days.  We got some really beautiful pictures from it, which is nice because we’re not really picture taking people.  We also used them for Christmas cards.

Post # 19
2119 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We did it for two reasons:


1) We were filling in my visa application and were asked if we had an engagement party and if so – where there photos? So we thought the more material the better!

2) Also, very important, the photo session was free since we were scouted by an art college where they were practicing engagement/wedding photo techniques


To sum it up, we got some nice photos that I posted on my blog – but it’s not something I’ll look back at when I’m old and grey. They do feel somewhat silly to me.

Post # 20
2014 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

engagement photos are not at your actual proposal unless your partner planned it that way. ours was included in our package and we found them to be very helpful as it gives you the opportunity to see what it feels like to be photographed constantly. We found out that my lovely wife does not like to be photographed and we had many pics of her making faces. It also gives you the opportunity to create a relationship with your photographer and when you get your pics back you can go through them together and you can say what you like and what you don’t like about them to prep them for your day. We also did not have many photos of the two of us so I loved the opportunity to capture the moments filled with the love we have for each other. And we displayed some at our wedding

Post # 21
2297 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We didn’t have them done.  We didn’t have STDs.  We used a photo recently taken on a cruise for the front cover of our programs, and on stamps for our invitations.  (We did the vanity stamps only because the postage we needed was an odd amount that otherwise would have required multiple stamps, which looked a bit messy to us.)

The best reasons I’ve seen for having them are so that a) your photographer can get to know you a bit better, and have a better idea of what will put you at your ease on your wedding day, and b) you can make sure you really like the photos your photographer does before the actual day.  (Yes, you could look at other photos for the latter purpose, but you’d never know whether your photographer was showing you just his or her best work.)  However, this wouldn’t really have worked for us, anyway, as our wedding photographer was in our wedding locale, which was 8 hours from where we live.

Post # 22
3584 posts
Sugar bee

I really just wanted to do them for fun and to use some of the pictures for our wedding. The most beneficial thing i got out of the whole thing is that the photographer encouraged me to smile showing my teeth (which i have never done) and he showed me how much better i look in  pictures that way…..now i smile with teeth in every picture taken of me and i will look amazing in my wedding pictures 🙂 


Post # 24
8375 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

When I was engaged, I didn’t know that people had the kind of beautiful, romantic, photojournalistic engagement photos that I’ve subsequently seen on wb or from a former co-worker’s engagement shoot. 

My DH and I had formal, in-studio, engagement portraits taken so that we would have a photo to accompany our engagement-announcement news releases that we sent to selected media. Also, my brother and his wife had a formal engagement portrait taken, and I thought it would be nice if DH and I had one done also so that my parents could display them together.

Post # 25
48 posts
  • Wedding: May 2013

@BridieBea:  Haha – thank you! We wanted something different and fun!  They are pointless, for sure (we’re not even sure if we’ll frame them in our house or not, and we didn’t use them for our Save the Dates), but it was a fun day and a good time to get to know our photographer, which I think is important if you plan on doing a more “editorial” style shoot, rather than posed (and especially if your photographer will be with you from the time you’re getting ready until the very last minute of your wedding day!).


But again, thanks for the compliment! 🙂

Post # 26
2469 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Here’s why we did them:

We have very few photos together to begin with

Included in the photo package

Great way to get to know the photographer, and for him to know our personalities

Used them in the Save the Dates

Made a guestbook using them

And they were FUN!

ETA: We are also displaying a 16×20 print at the wedding, and hanging it in the house. The print was included with our package.

Post # 27
90 posts
Worker bee

They are definitely not pointless or frivolous.  Getting comfortable in front of the camera and getting comfortable with your photographer behind the camera, is very critical in how your day-of-the-wedding pictures are going to come out.

I’ve talked to so many photographers about the disasters they’ve encountered where people haven’t wanted to do engagement shoots and then are dead fish in front of the camera come the wedding day because they’re not sure how to move or pose, or aren’t comfortable doing so. 

And then are angry at the photographer about the outcome of their pictures!  

It’s why a lot of photographers include the engagement shoots in their packages.  I know a couple of photographers that have insisted so much that they’ve done them for free.

Post # 28
1242 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

There’s a bunch of different reasons to do them that are wedding related, but ultimately the reason I wanted them was simply my own:


Why are your wedding photos important to you? Probably to capture one of the happiest days of your lives and remember that moment forever? But I don’t usually wear my hair up or wear a $1K dress and Fiance doesn’t usually wear a tux. I wanted us to be professionally captured as we normally are. We have some dressy E-Pics that I used for our save the date, but my favorite pictures are just us in jeans and T-shirts looking into each others eyes and laughing. Or the ones where he’s playing his guitar. Those are the pictures I want to have forever. To look at and remember what life was like being that in love.

For those days I know will come when he has the man-flu and the future toddler has just exploded and entire bag of flour all over the kitchen and the future kindergardener is fingerpainting the cat. 🙂

Post # 29
612 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2006

@phillybride61513:  Not trying to be rude, but this statement is ridiculous.  There is no conspiracy by the wedding industry to steal your money with the nefarious plot to take engagement photos.  People WANT engagement photos, so we take them for them.  Simple as that.

Why do people want good photos of themselves?  What’s the point of any photography at all?  It’s either something you understand and appreciate, or you don’t.

Post # 30
4231 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

They came with our overall package, including a free engagement album. My fiance and I are super shy people. I found it great to have a “practice session” with the photographer. It made us more comfortable, more relaxed, and the photog got a “feel” for us. I’m less worried about shots on the actual day now. Also, to me it’s nice to have photographs of the time. We’re in casual clothes, .. we just look like “us”. I was not planning on getting them/ I’m so glad we have them though. 

Post # 31
149 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

^ exactly. I could make up all the sessions I want but if clients didn’t want them and they weren’t beneficial, no one would buy them. 

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