Post # 1
Last night against my better judgement my Boyfriend or Best Friend asked to go out with a friend from the bar (last time they did it ended up bad) but i wasnt going to be an overbearing Girlfriend and said i dont care go have fun….Well he didnt come home till 130am…i was pissed. I didnt say anything to him at all when he got home, the only thing i said was in the morning he was laying on the cough watching tv and a said your a piece of shit….ya not very nice but i was still pissed…anyway…about 10 min later he comes up stairs and appoligizes saying im right he was a piece of shit and that hes sorry, he continues to tell me that he realized that his friend he thought was cool going out with all kinds of women drinking all night, he felt sorry for. That he could tell that his friend was actually lonely inside and although he acted like he didnt care for this girl as soon as she called was the only time he saw him smile all night. The girl had left him 2 weeks earlier for being childish. He said he knew right there that being out at the bar drinking was not where he wanted to be or what he liked to do anymore. He said all he wanted to do was come come to llay in bed with me and fall asleep…He felt bad that he screwed up and said that he needs me to keep him from doing stupid things like his other friends wife.. he said he thought it would be fun to go out but the fun never came he was bored and just checked his fantsy football team all night and had to apoloige to people for his friend he was with. .AT THIS POINT I COULDNT BE MAD ANYMORE….well later on today he calls me from work and was telling me he had told this other guy he works with that he needs to get me a ring and make an honest women out of me. That I deserve to be treated better….What do you girls think is he comming around????…………..Oh and hes not at all a drunk, hes a great man and only goes out about 2 times a month to begin with…..I hope this is a step in the right direction.
Post # 3
Sounds like he’s finally maturing to me. It takes some men time to get to that point, even if they are with a great girl from the get go. My SO was never the type to go out to a bar thank goodness, and always wanted to either invite his friends over, work on cars with his dad, or just hang out with me. It’s great when a guy realizes the bachelor life isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. 🙂
Post # 4
@Steelergirl: I’m glad you got a result you want, but I’m a bit worried by your post. Name calling should have no place in a relationship. It’s mean and destructive of your bond. I’m also confused: what did he do wrong? You told him to go have fun. Did you agree on him coming home by a certain time? It doesn’t seem fair to tell him to go out when he asks, and then be mad at him for doing what you agreed to.
There are lots of articles online about fighting fair. Here’s one: http://marriage.about.com/cs/conflictandanger/ht/fightfair.htm
Post # 5
@wilfred: He did agree to be home by 10 because my mother was bring my daughter home from a weekend with her and I was at work till 11. Thankfully my mother has a key to our house and got my daughter ready for bed for me and waited till i got home from work. I dont have a problem with fighting if anything that was probly the nicest “fight” weve ever had. Were very loud state how you really feel type of people neither of us are one to keep things bottled up. So calling him a piece of shit was exactly how i felt about him at that time.
Post # 6
If someone called me a “piece of shit” I would be out the door before they were even done. That is just so disrespectful and unecessary.
I am even more confused since you had told him to go out!
You two really should look into couple’s counseling before you get married.
Post # 7
@Steelergirl: Aaahhh I’m so excited for you – it does sound like he is coming around!
Post # 8
@Steelergirl: While I don’t condone name-calling, I understand your frustration and annoyance at your SO coming home later than the agreed upon time. It was irresponsible and immature but not something you should hold against him as he seems genuinely apologetic. Saying he needs to buy a ring and make an honest woman out of you is a good sign, I’d say. Have you had a discussion regarding your expectations regarding engagement/marriage?
Post # 9
@katlovesjames: yes weve had plenty of talks about marriage and even went to look at rings together and we know we will be married /have kids in the future but he has never given me any kind of timeline…just a vague…let things happen…and i already consider you my wife…comments..lol..