(Closed) hey mom, get your own wedding!

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
979 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I feel ya!!  Hang in there!!

Post # 4
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

Could you find something you don’t care too much about to put your mom in charge of so she feels like she’s doing something and in charge? My mom threw us an engagement party and put all of her energy into that.

Post # 6
513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

No worries, my mom is acting similarly, and it’s too the point i want to un-invite her. Definitely I found that projects (even small ones that don’t matter at all, like i had her look for venues for me even though i already knew where i wanted it) made her feel important and like she was doing something.. Now my sister and I are trying to come up with a big one she can do on wedding day, like maybe hand shape ice cubes or something?

Post # 8
1276 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think we all need to make a pact and agree that if we were to have daughters in the future, they won’t be posting about us taking over their day! 


@MissJoelsBee  Your ideas sound wonderful and maybe your mom is just excited to look things up. I think one of the joys of wedding planning is that everyone around you has suggestions and ways that you need to do things. I listen to ideas because, well, you never know but then ultimately keep your vision for your day! Since I have been engaged, my computer skill lacking mother has learned to “Google” and now has my poor father email me everything she found, including wedding dresses when I already have one. 

Enjoy your engagement and don’t let your mom get to you. Good Luck!

Post # 9
354 posts
Helper bee

@Miss JoelsBee:  That’s the kind of wedding I would LOOOOVE!!!!  Sorry your Mum’s being difficult 🙁  Stick to your guns tho!!

Post # 10
3866 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

wow… just… wow.  I’m actually GLAD my mom isn’t interested in ANYTHING wedding related!  

(ok, not true, she’s been known to drone on and on about how she didn’t have a wedding and went to the JoP and SHE is still married.  Right, Mom… what about the fact you LEFT HIM when I was in middle school for a few weeks and the fact he’s had multiple affairs and everyone is still scratching their heads about why he didn’t leave you when I turned 18! Yes, I HAVE been told that, to my face about my father!)

anywhos, I’m so, SOOOO sorry you ladies are have a rough time!  I’d just smile and nod (think of the penguins from Madagascar “smile and wave, boys. Smile and wave!”) and then ignore all the “helpful” suggestions!  

Oh, and I HAVE a daughter and we’re already dreading what she’ll end up wanting, lol.  hopefully her diva-ish attitude will go bye-bye by then, lol.  otherwise, ummmmm… me thinks she’d better marry a rich guy who can afford the 30k+ wedding (I know, I know, I’m exaggerating here! LOL!)  Regardless of what kind of wedding she wants, it’s gonna be up to her to decide everything.  

I’ve always thought the kids should be independant and make their own decisions.  And what they choose, they have to live with, good or bad.  (And yes, I try to encourage the good decisions.)  So why would I change that for their eventual weddings?  (I have a 7 year old son, and a step-son-to-be who’s 19)


good luck ladies!!!! 

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