(Closed) When will you host holidays at YOUR house?

posted 7 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: We have a small apartment, so once we have a house.
    We have a house, but not until we have kids. : (12 votes)
    10 %
    Not until we have kids. : (23 votes)
    19 %
    We are always going to spend it at our parents house. : (17 votes)
    14 %
    We will do one day at our house then another at parents house. : (20 votes)
    17 %
    Other/Explain. : (24 votes)
    20 %
    When we are older & have grown kids/grand kids. : (11 votes)
    9 %
    We already do. : (14 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 4
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I voted “other”.  We already hosted Christmas last year, although we weren’t married yet.  We had just bought our house and DH’s family decided that since we were getting married soon, we deserved to get our own holiday. 

    I think part of it was that they are getting older and don’t want to do all that work anymore, lol!  I know that DH’s cousin was married with kids and a house for years and never got to host.

    Post # 5
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    955 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Well, we’re not married yet, but we started hosting Thanksgiving at our house the Saturday before the actual holiday about 3 years ago…4 years ago? I don’t remember ha ha, but once we were actually in a house, we took it upon ourselves to start a new tradition of hosting it every year the weekend before.  Now everyone looks forward to it. 

    We invite my immediate family and all of our friends.  MrCPT’s family is not local.  Then on Thanksgiving day we go to his grandparents house (about 1.5 hr drive) and then to my parents house after.

    Christmas has been held at our house once, when his brother & family, mom, and grandma came to stay with us for the holidays.

    Post # 5
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    955 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    *duplicate*

    Post # 6
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    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    We have a house and a baby, but we’re still going to be going to the parents houses. It’s just tradition. Both of our parents live close so we have to go to each of them, so doing something at our house too would just be too much.

    Post # 7
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    2216 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Interesting question…I was just thinking about this topic this morning, lol.  Fiance and I aren’t married yet, but we bought a house together last June.  The past few Christmases we would go to my parents’ house first, then travel to my FI’s mom’s house.  But since either parents go anywhere else on Christmas, we could probably just have everyone over to our house.  Hmm..

    Post # 8
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    6661 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Our parents live very far from us and they all hate traveling, so not anytime soon unfortunately. I don’t think we will be able to force them to come to us until we start a family and own a home. They will only be tempted to come if it’s their only option to see us.

    Post # 9
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    7587 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    We already host all of the Holidays, except for Easter.  My Mother a couple of years ago gave me the responsibility. I think it’s because I’m more of a creative cook perhaps.  One of my Aunt’s is already making food requests for Christmas Eve LOL.

    Post # 10
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    6998 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I think we will go to our parents house until our (future) kids get older or we have a house. We are only 15 minutes from my parents and an hour from his – my husband still has younger brothers and sisters (the youngest is 7) so christmas at their house is still very exciting. plus there is just no room to host a dinner at our little apartment – we have a hightop kitchen table that seats 4. eek!

    Post # 11
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    9053 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I don’t really know when we would start hosting anything.  We typically do my side holidays with my entire extended family, and one of my aunts cooks every year.  I’d assume somebody else will take it it over if she ever didn’t want to/couldn’t anymore, but don’t know that it would be me.

    DH’s family just does immediate family, and since we live far away from his mom and sister they always host, and we sometimes come visit.

    I guess… I’d do it if we ever just stayed home?  Maybe after our kids are grown, I dunno… so not really answering your question at all!

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I was thinking about this the other day. My parents live in a different country so we are still trying work out which country so it is a lot tougher. I’m thinking when we have a house we might be able to host it every other Christmas? It is nice to get out of the city though, so maybe we’ll just keep going to MILs.

    Post # 13
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    6009 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    We started hosting Thanksgiving our Sophomore year in college; it’s just easier to have everyone travel to us, since our families live so far away from each other.  About three years ago we moved to a location that gets a lot of snow in the winter, so our families have open invitations to join us for the holidays.  But we made it very clear when we moved here that we will not be traveling anymore.  Especially now that we have a kid, it’s just too much work.

    Post # 14
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    10589 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    It will wait until we have a house, or at least a bigger place.  Right now, I’m a student but even once I’m working we want to make sure we’re going to stick around in location for quite a while before actually buying a house.  If we’re renting a house, then I would also consider.

    I’m not a great cook.  My sister got married in 2010 and she already had us over for Easter (just 4 of us).  Our parents live further away, so Christmas will probably always be there (one day his parents, one day mine), unless we end up moving back there.

    I think like my sister, I would prefer to start off small.  Something like Easter would be good.  It’s not a traditional big meal, and doesn’t require getting all the family together.

    If I ever hosted Christmas, I probably wouldn’t be the one doing most of the cooking!  At least not for a very long time.

    Post # 15
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    3942 posts
    Honey bee

    We already host, even when we weren’t engaged and lived in our old apartment. Our families live all over the place, so holidays are difficult. This year will be our 3rd year hosting Xmas eve for my family and his family. Las year we hosted Thanksgiving, but it was just 4 of us 🙂

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