Post # 1
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Sugar Beekeeper
When do married couples/House owners/Apartments renters start hosting Thanksgiving at their own home? I didn’t cook at all last year for Thanksgiving or Christmas. We spend the holidays going to My moms then to my husbands mom’s & his mamaw’s! Needless to say we ate plenty! 😛
But I have always wondered (& even when we first got our own place in March 2010 I got excited thinking about cooking for Thanksgiving!) But we have a 1 bedroom apartment. So us hosting at the moment would be silly. Do you host it when you get a house? or is it always at your parents/grandparents house? Is it after you have kids?
Silly question I know! haha But what do you think?
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
Oh & I voted for when we have grown kids/grand kids!
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
I voted “other”. We already hosted Christmas last year, although we weren’t married yet. We had just bought our house and DH’s family decided that since we were getting married soon, we deserved to get our own holiday.
I think part of it was that they are getting older and don’t want to do all that work anymore, lol! I know that DH’s cousin was married with kids and a house for years and never got to host.
Post # 5
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Busy bee
Well, we’re not married yet, but we started hosting Thanksgiving at our house the Saturday before the actual holiday about 3 years ago…4 years ago? I don’t remember ha ha, but once we were actually in a house, we took it upon ourselves to start a new tradition of hosting it every year the weekend before. Now everyone looks forward to it.
We invite my immediate family and all of our friends. MrCPT’s family is not local. Then on Thanksgiving day we go to his grandparents house (about 1.5 hr drive) and then to my parents house after.
Christmas has been held at our house once, when his brother & family, mom, and grandma came to stay with us for the holidays.
Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
We have a house and a baby, but we’re still going to be going to the parents houses. It’s just tradition. Both of our parents live close so we have to go to each of them, so doing something at our house too would just be too much.
Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
Interesting question…I was just thinking about this topic this morning, lol. Fiance and I aren’t married yet, but we bought a house together last June. The past few Christmases we would go to my parents’ house first, then travel to my FI’s mom’s house. But since either parents go anywhere else on Christmas, we could probably just have everyone over to our house. Hmm..
Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
Our parents live very far from us and they all hate traveling, so not anytime soon unfortunately. I don’t think we will be able to force them to come to us until we start a family and own a home. They will only be tempted to come if it’s their only option to see us.
Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
We already host all of the Holidays, except for Easter. My Mother a couple of years ago gave me the responsibility. I think it’s because I’m more of a creative cook perhaps. One of my Aunt’s is already making food requests for Christmas Eve LOL.
Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
I think we will go to our parents house until our (future) kids get older or we have a house. We are only 15 minutes from my parents and an hour from his – my husband still has younger brothers and sisters (the youngest is 7) so christmas at their house is still very exciting. plus there is just no room to host a dinner at our little apartment – we have a hightop kitchen table that seats 4. eek!
Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
I don’t really know when we would start hosting anything. We typically do my side holidays with my entire extended family, and one of my aunts cooks every year. I’d assume somebody else will take it it over if she ever didn’t want to/couldn’t anymore, but don’t know that it would be me.
DH’s family just does immediate family, and since we live far away from his mom and sister they always host, and we sometimes come visit.
I guess… I’d do it if we ever just stayed home? Maybe after our kids are grown, I dunno… so not really answering your question at all!
Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
I was thinking about this the other day. My parents live in a different country so we are still trying work out which country so it is a lot tougher. I’m thinking when we have a house we might be able to host it every other Christmas? It is nice to get out of the city though, so maybe we’ll just keep going to MILs.
Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
We started hosting Thanksgiving our Sophomore year in college; it’s just easier to have everyone travel to us, since our families live so far away from each other. About three years ago we moved to a location that gets a lot of snow in the winter, so our families have open invitations to join us for the holidays. But we made it very clear when we moved here that we will not be traveling anymore. Especially now that we have a kid, it’s just too much work.
Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
It will wait until we have a house, or at least a bigger place. Right now, I’m a student but even once I’m working we want to make sure we’re going to stick around in location for quite a while before actually buying a house. If we’re renting a house, then I would also consider.
I’m not a great cook. My sister got married in 2010 and she already had us over for Easter (just 4 of us). Our parents live further away, so Christmas will probably always be there (one day his parents, one day mine), unless we end up moving back there.
I think like my sister, I would prefer to start off small. Something like Easter would be good. It’s not a traditional big meal, and doesn’t require getting all the family together.
If I ever hosted Christmas, I probably wouldn’t be the one doing most of the cooking! At least not for a very long time.
Post # 15
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Honey bee
We already host, even when we weren’t engaged and lived in our old apartment. Our families live all over the place, so holidays are difficult. This year will be our 3rd year hosting Xmas eve for my family and his family. Las year we hosted Thanksgiving, but it was just 4 of us 🙂
