(Closed) HEY NEWLYWEDS/MARRIED GALS – If you could have changed one thing…

posted 11 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: Would you have changed something about your wedding?

    NOPE - Everything went as planned and was great!

    NOPE - A few things went wrong/fell through, but it was still perfect!

    YES - I would have changed a few things!

    YES - I would have changed EVERYTHING!

  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I loved EVERYTHING about my day!  wouldnt change a thing =o)

    Id have hired a DOC to make it go smoother, but we got it done without.

    Post # 4
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Everything went completely smoothly, however our vows with the children and each other were so emotional and touching that I would have hired a videographer, even if just for the ceremony. The photographer didn’t get pics of the kids’ faces as we said our vows to them and I really wish we had that.

    Also, dance lessons for my husband, he’s a terrible dancer, and it was very awkward, he refused to take them though…..I would make him if we did it again, lol.

     

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    So things went great.  Is it different than I thought it would be, sure.  But from the beginning me and my hubby said we just wanted a day to make a promise to each other and celebrate with our family and friends and that happened in a big way.  There’s little things that probably could have been adjusted or they’d have been fine if they were different but they were also fine and fun as they were.  In the end there wasn’t anything that took away from the day.  The only thing I think I’d change is before the wedding to realize it will get done and all work out.

    Post # 6
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    Busy bee

    I would have worn my dress for a few hours in the days leading up to the wedding.  I didn’t realize how present my boobs were, and had I known, I might have played around with different undergarments.  Or added last minute spaghetti straps.

    Post # 7
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2008

    Mine was perfect (or perfectly imperfect), but different than I thought it would be.  I had so much fun, but really, about an hour before the reception ended, all I wanted to do was be upstairs in our hotel room, alone with my new husband.  I’d expected that we’d want to party it up late into the night with all our guests, but we both really just wanted time to talk to each other quietly and just let it all sink in.  Sigh… it was so romantic!

    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2008

    Oh, and the one best decision I made was to have a day-after shot with our photographers, the morning after the wedding.  It was so nice to get in my dress again (but with casual DIY hair and makeup), and have my husband in his tuxedo, and just prance around outside (beach and garden), in different settings than the night before (church and restaurant/hotel).  I haven’t seen the pictures yet, but it was very relaxing and romantic, to have that couple of hours to just focus on us, before heading back and seeing our friends again.  It also took a lot of pressure away from getting perfect shots on the day.

    We did the day-after shot instead of an engagement shot, as we live in England (married in Maryland) and wouldn’t be in the country to be able to take advantage of the engagement shot included with our package.

    Post # 9
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I would have lied to my parents about the timelines (so they were on time!) and i would have chosen a different photographer. Post-wedding mine has caused me nothing but grief. I have only received the first draft of our album and i got married mid-june! oye

    Post # 10
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2008

    only the weather, which you can never planned. was supposed to be high in the mid 70s/low 80s.  Was 96 instead! 

    Post # 11
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    80 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I wish we had been more purposeful about getting photographs with my extended family (my 102-year-old grandmother was there!), and we had a little snafu with our programs that ended up working out but were a bit of a stressor.  All in all, the day was perfect because I married my best friend — and being a newlywed is the bomb!

    Post # 12
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I wish I would have hired a different DOC.  I was not impressed with mine.  I would have been more demanding to the catering manager as I felt she walked all over me because I just loved the venue.  I would have tried to talk to all 170 guests.  I know that was impossible but I should have made a more concerted effort.  Other than that, I loved my wedding.

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    It was perfect! The only thing I can think of is that the power kept going out in my hotel room where I was getting ready. We had enough light (thank you, beautiful sunny day) but it meant we couldn’t listen to the iPod playlist I’d made for getting ready. Honestly, I barely noticed, I was so excited!

    Post # 14
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    Sugar bee

    My wedding was wonderful, but if I had it to over again I would do two things differently.  I would have insisted that our cake baker (a family friend) put the actual flowers I gave her on top of the cake.  For some reason she decided to put this bright pink gerber daisy on top (not one of our colors or flowers), which I felt totally detracted from the cake.  I would also have not allowed my Brother-In-Law to give the blessing at dinner.  Instead of just saying “grace” like we’d hoped, he gave a 15 minute mini-sermon where he said a lot of things that we personally don’t agree with.  I found his speech mildly offensive and totally inappropriate.  I suspected this might happen, but it was really important to my husband to include him, so I went along with it.

    Post # 15
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    While the day truly was perfect, I did vote that I would have changed a few things.

    Part of me thinks that I’m second-guessing some things because we haven’t seen our pro pics yet, but here are some things that I would have changed:

    – To this day, I’m still not sure if my dress was “the dress.” Not that I was ever looking for “the dress,” just something was was me and that made me feel beautiful. I truly loved my dress, but I don’t think it was special enough. I had a very small dress budget though, and everything that knocked my socks off was over $5K. I ended up with a very simple tea-length dress. I think I need to see some pro pics to solidify that I loved it 🙂 I see so many other tea-length dress these days, like Dolly Couture, and even some Priscilla of Boston ones that I wish I had paid a little more for.

    – My bouquet was all wrong when I got it the day of the wedding (like, opposite of what I asked for as far as colors). I’m not sure what happened with our florist, exactly. But flowers were not a priority at all, so it didn’t bother me too much.

    – The final thing, and the biggest thing I regret, not having a videographer. I don’t regret not hiring a professional, but we planned on passing off our little digital recorder to a friend or family member to capture the big events like the ceremony and first dance and toasts, and we forgot. I’m so upset because quite literally, our ceremony was such a blur, I barely remember walking down the aisle and seeing my husband’s face.

    Post # 16
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2020

    The one and only thing I would have changed was our cupcakes.  I didn’t like the way they were decorated and the second I saw them I thought “ugh!”  But, it was my own fault really.  The cake/ cupcakes were of such little importance to us that I didn’t give our baker much direction in terms of decoration.  We didn’t even “cut” them.  We had our band make an announcement that people could help themselves if they wanted to, we were having too much fun dancing!  So in the end, the cupcakes had ZERO impact on my day.  In fact, I didn’t even try one until the next day when I ate one that was wrapped up and brought to my hotel room.  I guess the lesson is, if its important to you, be specific!

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