(Closed) "Hey, you can't use that name."

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
2515 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

nah, don’t change it. if i were the mom, i wouldn’t be upset or annoyed by it. i would be flattered that someone else thought it was a cute name too. if she gets annoyed, then she has issues.

Post # 4
4354 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Are you REALLY close to this person? If not, fair game. Kinsley is fairly popular so it’s not like you couldn’t have heard/seen it anywhere else.

Post # 5
16195 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I always figure that if I limited my (far off in the future) children’s name to those that weren’t used by anyone I knew, I’d have very few choices left. Nice of you to be conscientious, but if you and your husband both love the name and think it perfect, I wouldn’t change it.

Post # 7
1471 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

My SIL said she would use my son’s (family) middle name for her baby if it was a boy, too. I probably would have prefered she ask, but I would have said yes, and ultimately it doesn’t bug me (of course, the baby is a girl, but she would probably still use it for a future boy, too.) 

My aunt asked me if she could use my middle name for her daughter when I was about 12. I was so excited! 

That being said, this was family. Random lady at church? Fair game.

Post # 8
3230 posts
Sugar bee

@figgnewton:  Say this to her, “We absolutely love that name! Do you mind if we use it?” I would consider it very flattering.

Post # 9
2192 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Gemstone:  Great way of putting it!

We have a little one coming in August and I thought the name Griffin would be adorable.  Plus the name goes well with big sis, Phoenix.  Turns out DH’s cousin has a son named Griffin.  The cousin I have never met, Darling Husband hasn’t seen in years and lives in a different state.  If I think that’s fair game than you for sure are good to go!

Post # 10
16195 posts
Honey Beekeeper

@figgnewton:  Oh I totally understand your concern. I guess I just try to tell myself that naming your child is a huge (and irreversible) thing, so it really has to make you and your husband happy first.


Post # 11
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

You say you rarely see this woman – If I rarely saw a person and they named their baby the same name as my child, I probably wouldn’t for a second think that they “stole” my baby name or even think they got the name from my child. 


If it were a close friend or family member, it would change things a bit.  I wouldn’t be totally against them using the same name, but I’d probably prefer a heads up.


Post # 12
4495 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@MRSsrm85:  +1.

I think mentioning it to the woman and asking if she would mind would be a good move. I almost feel like as soon as someone on Facebook uses a name or one of our acquaintances names their child something then that name is now off limits. Whenever a FB friend gives birth I hold my breath that they won’t use one of our chosen names! Ridiculous, I know.

Kinsley Jane is so cute!

Post # 13
7499 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Weird that your husband was SO against Tinsley but loves Kinsley.  They are like the same name to me.  Anyway, you should name your kid what you like- I wouldn’t worry about what someone at church thought.


Post # 14
5242 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I say use it..its not like she is a close friend or family member. I have some baby names that I like but I have never revealed them to my friends or family cause I dont want the situation of them stealing the name lol

Post # 16
458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I don’t think it’s a big deal at all. Even if you were closer friends, I feel the friend has no place to say you can’t use a name. I feel that direct siblings are the only people you can’t “steal” names from, and even in that case, if it’s a family name, everyone should get to use it.

Also, I just wanted to bring up the name “Tenley”. There was a girl on The Bachelor a few years ago with that name, and I wanted to throw it in there if you’re still looking for similar alternatives. KJ might be cuter for a little girl than TJ, though.

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