(Closed) "Hey, you can't use that name."

posted 7 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 32
154 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

If you rarely see her I think it is fine. There are only so many names out there right?! If you’re nervous about it, you could ask as others have said. Just compliment the name, and say you’re thinking of using it, but don’t want it to be weird! I think when it was someone close to you then it may be different, but sounds like you’re not close, so go for it! Its a very cute name btw 🙂

Post # 33
609 posts
Busy bee

Even if you are close to her, who gives a shit. It is a name, not a copyrighted item. 

Post # 34
4801 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@baletrina:  We had a similar situation – fell in love with a baby boy name and DH’s mom reminded us that he has a cousin with a little boy named that. Well, Darling Husband hasn’t seen that cousin in years, they’re not in touch, and we haven’t even met the child…so we don’t care, that’s what our baby is being named anyways! I think it’s fine, OP. Seriously, if you discarded any name that casual acquaintances of yours have used, your options would be ridiculously limited.

Post # 35
1404 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I recently lost a friend over merely suggesting a boy’s name that was on her shortlist. It was ridiculous. But having said that, it proved what kind of person she was so no great loss. Nobody has a monopoly over a name or the right to withold it from public use. I say go with your gut and follow your heart. The lady at church may be flattered or offended – but either way, this is your child and the name you give your child is really nobody else’s business.

Post # 36
229 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Oh. I think this is fine. 


My younger brother’s name is Ryan. My maternal nan got pregnant when Ryan was maybe 4…. She named her son (our uncle and mums half brother)…. Ryan. Mum was livid. 

Post # 37
1430 posts
Bumble bee

@figgnewton:  So I recently head someone naming their baby McKinsley. Do you like that? And call her Kinsley for short? That way it would be a little different. 

OR.. fib and say ” Yeah we have always loved that name” so she doesn’t think you are stealing it.

OR.. tell the truth.. Yeah I loved the name Tinsley but Darling Husband didn’t like it so our compromise was Kinsley. 

Either way.. if this child isn’t in your close circle of friends I don’t see a problem having the same nam.

Post # 38
462 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I personally wouldn’t bring it up to her before hand and ask if it’s ok. We all hope that she would be nice and feel obligated to say yes but there is always the chance she’ll say no. And them you’ll really feel like you can’t use it. 

Post # 39
2192 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Wonderstruck:  Oh good!  I feel better about still liking Griffin!

Post # 40
108 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@figgnewton:  I say use it if you and Darling Husband love the name. My Darling Husband and I had names picked out before we were TTC. Last year my friend had a baby boy and used the name we picked a long time ago. We are pregnant now and if the baby is a boy we are still using the name.


By The Way…love Kinsley and the nickname KJ!

Post # 41
85 posts
Worker bee

It’s not like it’s an unusual name that you would only ever see once – on her child. It’s getting pretty popular so I’d just go ahead and use it if its the only one you can agree on.

Post # 42
1172 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

It’s a fairly common name now, don’t think she would say you “used her name”.  I say go for it!

Post # 43
2091 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Personally, I’d go for it. You rarely see this person – I bet she won’t think for a second you “copied” her.

I wouldn’t ask her if it’s ok to use the name. Firstly, you don’t need to. It’s not like she “owns” it. And secondly, what if she says no? Then you really will be stuck.

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