Post # 32
If you rarely see her I think it is fine. There are only so many names out there right?! If you’re nervous about it, you could ask as others have said. Just compliment the name, and say you’re thinking of using it, but don’t want it to be weird! I think when it was someone close to you then it may be different, but sounds like you’re not close, so go for it! Its a very cute name btw 🙂
Post # 33
Even if you are close to her, who gives a shit. It is a name, not a copyrighted item.
Post # 34
@baletrina: We had a similar situation – fell in love with a baby boy name and DH’s mom reminded us that he has a cousin with a little boy named that. Well, Darling Husband hasn’t seen that cousin in years, they’re not in touch, and we haven’t even met the child…so we don’t care, that’s what our baby is being named anyways! I think it’s fine, OP. Seriously, if you discarded any name that casual acquaintances of yours have used, your options would be ridiculously limited.
Post # 35
I recently lost a friend over merely suggesting a boy’s name that was on her shortlist. It was ridiculous. But having said that, it proved what kind of person she was so no great loss. Nobody has a monopoly over a name or the right to withold it from public use. I say go with your gut and follow your heart. The lady at church may be flattered or offended – but either way, this is your child and the name you give your child is really nobody else’s business.
Post # 36
Oh. I think this is fine.
My younger brother’s name is Ryan. My maternal nan got pregnant when Ryan was maybe 4…. She named her son (our uncle and mums half brother)…. Ryan. Mum was livid.
Post # 37
@figgnewton: So I recently head someone naming their baby McKinsley. Do you like that? And call her Kinsley for short? That way it would be a little different.
OR.. fib and say ” Yeah we have always loved that name” so she doesn’t think you are stealing it.
OR.. tell the truth.. Yeah I loved the name Tinsley but Darling Husband didn’t like it so our compromise was Kinsley.
Either way.. if this child isn’t in your close circle of friends I don’t see a problem having the same nam.
Post # 38
I personally wouldn’t bring it up to her before hand and ask if it’s ok. We all hope that she would be nice and feel obligated to say yes but there is always the chance she’ll say no. And them you’ll really feel like you can’t use it.
Post # 39
@Wonderstruck: Oh good! I feel better about still liking Griffin!
Post # 40
@figgnewton: I say use it if you and Darling Husband love the name. My Darling Husband and I had names picked out before we were TTC. Last year my friend had a baby boy and used the name we picked a long time ago. We are pregnant now and if the baby is a boy we are still using the name.
By The Way…love Kinsley and the nickname KJ!
Post # 41
It’s not like it’s an unusual name that you would only ever see once – on her child. It’s getting pretty popular so I’d just go ahead and use it if its the only one you can agree on.
Post # 42
It’s a fairly common name now, don’t think she would say you “used her name”. I say go for it!
Post # 43
Personally, I’d go for it. You rarely see this person – I bet she won’t think for a second you “copied” her.
I wouldn’t ask her if it’s ok to use the name. Firstly, you don’t need to. It’s not like she “owns” it. And secondly, what if she says no? Then you really will be stuck.