Post # 1
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
I am writing this out of sheer frustration, so this is a mixed bag of me venting and trying to just make others aware of how your cell phone use affects others around you.
- At an event (including movie theatres, concerts, etc.)
At your lawyer’s/doctor’s office (or any other place that you are obtaining some sort of professional service)
- When you are seated in the row in front of me in a dark theatre the glow of your cell phone is incredibly distracting as it is what my eyes are drawn to
- I am really into whatever it is that I am watching and suddenly your voice comes through – I am no longer in that moment
- If this is a live performance then it can be really distracting for that person (comedian, actor, lector, etc.)
- The person (or people) at the front may have greeted you and may not be doctors/nurses/lawyers, but it does not mean that they are not doing work for their employers that are very important (could be preparation for a court deadline or whatever and you decide to carry on a conversation which disrupts that work (even worse when you put your conversation on speaker phone)
At a sit down restaurant or at the front of the line of a café/fast food restaurant
- Disrupting the lector is never a good idea
- There are some people that care a lot about doing well or passing in a course, so you are wasting their time/money by having your screen on or gabbing away on your phone (that goes for playing any game on your computer while you are at the front of the class or hall, but that’s another topic)
In the washroom
- You are holding up the employee from doing other tasks and being productive, whether it be the next customer or refilling or cleaning
- You are holding up other customers from being served so are wasting their time
During a meal
- If I am in a stall and trying to use the toilet and suddenly someone is on their cell phone, it is incredibly awkward
- If I am on the other end of the phone, I really did not want to hear you do your business or someone else do theirs
- The person who you are having lunch or dinner with has taken time out of their busy schedule to have lunch with you so you have signalled that they are just not as important as the person on the phone and their time does not matter
If you are expecting an important call by all means put your phone on vibrate and excuse yourself to take the call. Go outside or in a busy spot where others won’t be working (or going to the washroom). A lot of times if it is an employee somewhere they cannot tell you to get off your phone because it is viewed as rude and would most likely get reprimanded. Please be aware of the above the next time you decide to take that call or answer that text, because you do not want to be that person.
This post is brought about because I work in a legal office and while I do receptionist work it is a very insignificant portion of the actual work I do, which is actually law clerk. There are two other law clerks that work in the open area with me. The majority of my work involves drafting and preparing documents (Affidavits, Motions, etc.) for Court, as well as research. Today this client came in and proceeded to put their phone conversation on speaker phone on their cell phone! This totally disrupts my thinking and drives me crazy, so it made me think of all the other types of places I have worked (Timmies, cafes, etc) and how awful and rude it is of people. The person in question today had multiple loud conversations on her cell phone to the point that when her third call was over I said “hey, if you guys need privacy to talk then please feel free to make use of the room off to the side. I am not sure the lady completely got it because she took yet another phone call but talked in a much lower tone. It is incredibly disruptive in our being able to concentrate on the work or task at hand and I am seriously not interested in whatever conversation it is that you are having on your phone.
If you were able to stick all the way through this post, thank you.
Post # 2
I agree, this is so rude! We live in a society now where the majority of people think it’s fine to be on the phone while doing most normal tasks. In NYC it is so annoying when I’m racing to pick my baby up from daycare and there are people text-walking everywhere who are looking down walking really slow blocking my way. And i HATE it when I go out to eat with someone who takes a call or texts. I hope my son grown up learning this is rude and there is a time and a place for cell phones.
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
People are crazy. That’s what I decided after a year of taking the bus to work in California. CRAZY. If they think I want to hear their SAD/LAME/EMBARASSING/AWKWARD/MOSTLY JUST LAME phone conversations.
But apparently that’s what they think.
Post # 4
laceydoilies: Can I add driving? Hey you driving like an idiot in stop go traffic with your eyes so obviously down and not remotely on the road. Put the phone away and drive your freaking car!
Yesterday I had the pleasure of following a Honda Prelude for the majority of my stop and go communte with the driver so obviously on her cell phone. The worst part was that her male companion was just ignoring the fact that she was texting and driving, which is illegal. If it was that urgent why didn’t he do the texting? She wouldn’t realize traffic was moving and would have a 7 car gap in front of her and then race ahead only to slam on her breaks. Watching her I rarely say her eyes leave her lap. It was beyond infuriating because I was stuck behind her with no place to go.
Post # 5
laceydoilies: Thank you for this. That woman at your law firm was beyond rude.
I actually noticed now that many workplaces have signs showing “No Cell Phone” zones. Maybe you can put up a similar sign? I had lunch at Subway today, and I saw that there was a “Please do not use your cell phone while placing order” sign on the counter. It must have been really bad for Subway to put up that sign.
As for texting/calls at the dinner table, my friends and I are tech-obsessed and working on it. So what we do before dinner is we put all our phones in one corner of the table/booth. Whoever consults their phone first for a non-emergency has to pay the entire bill. So far we’ve been good, and no one had to pay the whole bill yet, lol.
Post # 6
Treejewel19: I see this ALL THE TIME in New Jersey (where the roads are basically freeways to hell). I’m honestly surprised NJ doesn’t have more accidents – the people here drive like dumbasses as it is, but add texting to the mix? Yikes.
Post # 7
UGH… don’t even get me started. I work in theater, and cell phones are the bane of my existence. Please, when you go to the theater (movie or live) turn your phone OFF. all the way OFF. not on vibrate (the people around you can hear that too. you aren’t fooling anyone).
Depending on the type of phone you have, and where you keep it, “silent” can potentially be a problem too. My husband has an i-phone that he keeps in his pocket, and he has had it accidentally turn from silent to on before. (not at the theater, thank god). So now he turns it all the way off just to be safe.
It’s like so many people just dont know how to behave in public anymore. I cannot even tell you how many times I have been in the audience when a phone has gone off. it is terrible. I have also seen people check their phones and text/e-mail/whatever. as OP said, in a dark theater that light is REALLY distracting.
Also- don’t carry on full conversations with the people you are with. A whisper here or there, or genuinely reacting to what is going on on stage is perfectly fine, but not full conversations in a loud whisper. If you are far enough away it may not affect the actors, but it sure as hell will affect those around you.
See? I said “dont get me started”, and now I have started… haha. This is a huge pet peve of mine. and the people that go to the theater and behave this way always sit near me. which means that either I am the unlukiest theater-goer in the world, or there are TONS of people out there who just dont know how to behave.
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
Treejewel19: Oh my gosh, yes! There are blue tooths for a reason … So you can have both eyes on the road and hands on the wheel (you can even answer texts using blue tooth!) … Such a novel concept lol!
MrsNewDay: She definitely was. I just don’t understand because it is a professional environment who are working. I personally take my FI’s phone from him while he is driving so if there is a call or text or something I can pick it up and for dinner we have a no technology rule so we have to be present and have actual conversations with each other. I think that what you and your friends are doing is awesome. For the majority of people it really is not something that cannot wait until you are at your destination or if it is something that is actually super urgent then you can pull off to the side of the road.
A sign would be nice but it actually doesn’t happen that often. It was just very noticeable today because it was multiple loud conversations. We (my colleagues and I that share the common area) don’t even notice when we are making phone calls or taking calls because we speak in regular voices so it would not be such a big deal to me if they were talking in regular indoor voices. Ohhh I wish I had had that sign when I worked in food! It was always beyond me when someone would tell me to “hold on a minute” when I was trying to get their order.
delovely13: lol I know what you mean. I got so mad earlier and ended up posting a lot. I think that people that do it at live theatre performances are horrible because it just ruins it for a lot of people. I think that society in general has degraded with how they behave in public – and it cannot be blamed on just one generation since I have seen those belonging to all kinds of backgrounds and age groups behaving in such a rude way.
Post # 9
laceydoilies: Hey, can you keep it down? I’m on my cellphone.
Post # 10
AGREED. I was at a broadway show on Wednesday, and this old woman in front of me actually ANSWERED her phone and was like “Oh I’m in the theater…”
Life. My Fiance and I make a point of being present with each other (not like we don’t check our phones, but it’s just unhealthy to be constantly afraid you’re “missing” something while you’re with someone else.)
What could possibly be that important? If you’re expecting a call, keep the phone on vibrate and excuse yourself from the situation to take it.
Post # 11
laceydoilies: I cannot stand cell phones especially when I am on my college campus! I don’t know how many times someone has just stopped dead in front of me on the sidewalk or staircase to answer a text. My favorite is trying to pass a huge group of texters who are walking super slow. I also think texting while trying to cross a street should be on the list! I see that a lot too, and then they try to sue the driver when they get hit..
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2014 - Stevens Estate
This drives me insane!! I was at the mall last weekend (it was very crowded) and some rude jerk was on his cell phone while walking really slow in front of me just enjoying his conversation. And it was crowded so I just couldn’t go around him very easily. It’s like WTF! Step off to the side if you want to carry on a conversation and walk slow. So annoying. I hate when I see people texting/talking on a phone while walking and not paying attention to their surroundings. I find it very inconsiderate to others.
Cell phones should now come ‘when not to use guide’ for all the ignorant idiots out there who cannot use their common sense!
Post # 13
- Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa
laceydoilies: I’m with you on this!
The real sticking point for me (even though people have been rude with their cell at my job), is that Fiance is always texting/whatever when we are having dinner. I’ve asked him repeatedly to stop, and he doesn’t seem to see the problem, though he has improved (probably because he is sick of me asking).
Post # 14
*wahhhhhh* You live in a society with cell phones. I agree that some people can be rude at times and in certain situations but either get used to it or run for office so you can ban them when you become president.
Post # 15
ilovebacon: +1 I’m with you on this.
Yeah, people are dicks. Are you still surprised by this? We can’t control the crap other people do on their phones. Not everyone is as polite as you and you can’t let it bother you. In a perfect world, people would all be as polite as you. They won’t ever be, though, so there’s no point in letting it get you all worked up.
In the future… why not call these people out on their annoying behavior? I’m sure other people would be in agreeance with you and probably would appreciate you doing it since they probably don’t have enough balls to do it themselves.