(Closed) Hey….where is my thank you card!??

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Newbee

@moneypenny02:Omg, when I read this it made me giggle! This is how I am.  My sister got married last September and I was on a student budget and was paying rent at two places at the time (because we were moving) so I was clearly strapped for cash.  Still I saved and gave her a 200 dollar check.  It was cashed like the next day….fast forward to today…still no thank you.

 

Since then she has had a baby and the baby shower came and went…spent over 300 on my little nephew and finally got a thank you..but where’s my wedding thank you!?

 

I could so see myself sending out some snarky text…still waiting on my thank you…haha!

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I think it’s okay to send a message asking if they got your gift–not to be snarky, but just to make sure they actually got it.  That’s actually considered appropriate etiquette.  I would try to avoid snarkiness (although I would definitely be tempted to make a comment about how long it had been), but it’s okay to ask because you do want to make sure that the gift didn’t get lost in the mail. 

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

Lmao your thank you is the same place as my rsvp’s in etiquette hell 😛

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I am for a snark!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I hear you! I went to a wedding last July (as in 2009). I gave a gift that I could afford (I was broke and had 4 weddings that summer). I know they got it, as it was a cheque that was cashed. No thank you.

When I got married in September I had to hound them for their RSVP (which was no) and no follow up “congrats” or “best wishes”.

I personally think that the bride was in the thought that people should have been gifting a lot, since the wedding was higher end. Sorry, I just couldn’t afford that. Maybe I am the most awful person for thinking that someone would be excited that people were there to celebrate their day and not for what they were able to gift.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

This makes me giggle too because I hate to admit it, but I’m sort of that petty too! Obviously, PLEASE don’t text the couple over an old thank-you note! They at least sent the RSVP back.

I had a WORSE situation, if you can believe it. I offered to do calligraphy (for free) for a friend’s wedding and she said yes, but never got the addresses/envelopes to me. So I figured she didn’t want it. Then I heard that her MOTHER was saying I had reneged on the deal because my friend didn’t tell her mom the envelopes weren’t calligraphed because SHE wasn’t communicating with me, not because I reneged or anything! For her wedding, she had things shipped to her mom’s house. I never got a thank-you. So I called her. Over and over. Until finally I called her mom to ask. “Oh yes she got it. She said she sent a thank-you note…” Yeah, right. Not one of my friends got a thank-you. So fast forward to my wedding, I got a gift from her mom. And boy, did that thank-you go out like lightning!–I had to make her see that I’m not the one in the habit of dropping correspondence!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

This is too funny!

 

In my family if you dont send thank yous you dont get gifts anymore. This is really hard for me because we got a wedding gift from FH’s aunt a few weeks ago and I am waiting until we get back from out Destination Wedding to send thank yous with pictures from it. And I feel HORRIBLE i havent sent her a Thank You yet!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Can I also say that I love this thread because it’s nice to see people still value thank-you notes? There are a lot of people who wish the tradition would end. They’re not my favorite thing in the world to do myself, but it DOES mean something to me  and I like that there’s a system that exists to have generosity acknowledged in a thoughtful way.

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

@moneypenny: hey don’t mess with us postal workers…. Lmao!!!! Seriously I was livid when I went to my job interview and saw all the beautiful wedding stamps… That no one told me about.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Ugh! I would be so annoyed toO!! We are ALMOST done with our thank yous and I feel awful that its been 2 months and they havent all gotten out!!

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think that people lack general manners now a days!  Wow, I feel old, but seriously. Is it that hard to “politely decline” in a note or a phone call. Or send a thank-you card? I’m 24 and it seems like an obvious necessity to me…. but apparently not that obvious to everyone. lol

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