(Closed) Hi (first post), and already stressed :/

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@Candycane:  Hey, welcome to the Bee! I know what you mean, my wedding is on a Wednesday and had to deal with those comments myself. At the end of the day, if a person really values you and wants to be there, they will. That is how I look at it anyway!

 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

you have YOUR wedding when you want to have YOUR wedding. 

I am going to a destination wedding on a freaking wednesday. Know why? Because I care about my friend and want to be there for her. 

So what I am saying is…have your wedding whatever day you choose. The people who care to be there will be there. The people who make an issue or talk behind your back can stay home.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I got married on a Tuesday!!!! Although in my community weeknight weddings are extremely common. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I say don’t worry about it and enjoy the engagement when it comes. I don’t think people will talk behind your backs for that, but your mom has a point it would be a hard day to take for work. But I feel like you are getting ahead of yourself right now.

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Try not to stress too much about the wedding yet.  Your SO might have some ideas/comments about when he would like to have the wedding once you get engaged.  When it comes down to it, it is a day for the two of you, not to accomodate everyone you know, because that will nearly be impossible!  Do what will make you and your SO happy and enjoy your special day!

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It’s your day, and the people who really love you will be there.  That being said, you also have to understand that weekday weddings do cause trouble for some guests, especially those who may have to travel.  You’ll have to be forgiving if some people can’t make it because of that!  As long as you’re happy, your wedding will be wonderful.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

In the week after my engagement, I went from ball-of-happy-excitement to curling up in a ball on the bathroom floor while the shower was running so no one could hear me crying.  I knew how much weddings cost, I knew how many people we had to invite, but when it came down to having my parents spend that much money for one day for me? I crumpled. 

But there is a light at the end of the tunnel! We’re making it work and I’m planning on returning the favor to my parents somehow– not sure yet, but I’ll figure something out!  Don’t think about other people.  Plan the wedding you want to have, with a budget you can work with. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Try to relax and enjoy this time. You aren’t engaged yet, so why start stressing already? I have really practical parents that sometimes deflate me with all “what if’s” and possiblities. For now, just try to block her out. Cross the bridge of money, who can attend and all the details when you have to. It’s really exciting that you’ll be getting engaged!! Focus on that, details can wait. Hope that helps!

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I know how you feel, we got married on our anniversary & it was a Sunday, still a weekend and people still complained.  Honestly its your day, the people that matter won’t care and the people who care don’t matter.  You’ll get a great deal on venues by having a weekday wedding.  Just let it roll off, it’ll still be everything you dreamed of!!

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

Welcome to the Hive!

You can’t please everyone.  Some people just enjoy critiquing and complaining.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I feel you, for real. It’s all very exciting, but when realiy hits, it hits hard. We’re still in the process of finding a venue, and it’s been almost a month of searching. Just wait until you’re engaged to really stress yourself out, haha. And remember, take it one step at a time. Just focus on one aspect of the wedding, and once that is finished, move on to the next project.

If you want a Tuesday wedding do it. I wish we could do it during the week, or even a Sunday, because it’s so much cheaper. But, since 80% of our guests are out of town, it’s totally unrealistic. Pretty much none of them would be able to come. That was our deciding factor on having it on a Saturday.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

hey i just wanted to post to say your getting married how exciting, please keep that excitement!! my hubby to be made an excellent point when i get stessed about our wedding the most important thing is that we get married everything else is just really doesnt matter in the end!!

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I know where you are coming from…My Fiance and I are getting married on a Thursday. MY family has no issue with (to them, it’s just an excuse to take a long weekend!) His family was against it and tried to convince us no one would come.

Basically, we told them that we are getting married that day, whether they like it or not.

The people who care about you will FIND a way to get to your wedding.

Don’t stress, your engagement is a time to enjoy 🙂

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