- 9 years ago
- Wedding: October 2009
Hey there bees-
There is something that has been bugging me. I’ve sat on it, well, for quite some time and I was wondering if anyone has said anything like this to you…
Someone who is close to me made a comment a couple of months ago along the lines of "don’t be surprised if there are not alot of people attending your wedding because people came the first time". Um…WHAT?????
I let it slide, didn’t say much, but it has been festering and I know, while I shouldn’t be paying attention or heed to some things that other people say, this has just stuck under my skin.
I got married for the first time in 1995-EONS ago. I lived clear on the other side of Georgia, taught in a different school system, attended a different church, etc. I don’t know about those of you here who are encores, but while I knew some of the people at my first wedding-for the most part, there were ALOT of friends of my parents there, church members/friends of theirs, etc. I had graduated from college the spring before and had just finished my first year teaching and got married at home…a home I hadn’t lived in since going away to school 3 years before.
The thing is this-I live somewhere different now, teach in a school system where I’ve been for 13 years, have a different group of friends (not totally different friends-still have old friends like we all do who I stay in touch with on a regular basis and girlfriends from high school that we have been thru hell and high water together and are still close, am I making ANY sense here?) A vast majority of the people we are inviting to our wedding are ladies I work with, friends from church who have kids the same age as mine-we do the bday party, holiday party, cookout, picnic thing together-attending the events in each other’s lives. When someone is sick, we all help out, if someone has surgery, we take food and meals-I’d say mostly pretty good to very good friends.
Am I unrealistic that those friends who we are close with now-single friends, couple friends, and family friends (those with kids) who are sort of a part of the day to day life that we have would be attending our wedding? Our guest list is around 150, so we were figuring around 80-100 of those would be attending-families invited, children encouraged with a nursery provided for the little ones for the ceremony. Our late morning (11 am) ceremony is being followed by a brunch reception in our church social hall. I should also mention, that most of our family friends with kids the same age that we hang with on a regular basis are also church friends.
I hope this makes some sort of garbled sense here…thoughts on this?!