Post # 1
Hi Everyone, I’m a new bee 🙂 I must confess, I’ve been a bee stalker for the past few days…lurking around here. I just couldn’t help joining today!! I’m 22 years old and my SO and I have been together for just over 2 years. He is 25. SO only had one girlfriend (2 week relationship) before me. He’s not a crazy person either, he’s very athletic (played baseball in college), funny and verrrrrrrrrry attractive (in my opinion lol). He just didn’t want to waste time when he wasn’t ready to settle down with someone.
Luckily I came into the picture at just the right time, right before he graduated from college. We bought a house together a little over a year together and we are very very happy. We both have stable jobs and are at the place where “its right.”
Now for the not so pretty parts…..both of my sisters got married this year (one younger- ouch- and one older). This threw me into crazy person mode. I have ALWAYS been the little girl who wanted to get married. I only played wedding when I was little (my litttle sister got to be the groom :)), all I’ve ever wanted was to be a wife and have kids. Now, I’m also very big on education and work but the wife thing comes in way above those priorities for me.
I’ve known I wanted to marry my SO since very early on in the relationship and we’ve talked about it since pretty early on too. He did say that he wanted us to be together at least a year before we got engaged. So that first year I was not insane about it at all. Then the year hit and I started expecting a proposal all the time. This mania hit worst in August. It had been awhile since our anniversary and I kept setting deadlines in my head…we’ll be engaged by my birthday (August 16th), then his birthday (August 29th), etc.. When both of those dates passed I started to lose hope. I averaged an emotional breakdown every two weeks…poor guy. He kept assuring me that he loves me and wants to marry me, he’s just one of those people who has to plan everything in agonizing detail and doesn’t mind taking his time. I minded.
The peak was 3 weeks ago. A girl at work got engaged. I had talked to her before about how we were both feeling the same while waiting and I remember thinking during this conversation, “I’ll feel really bad when I have to tell her I’m engaged and she isn’t yet.” HA! That day I had a breakdown in my cubicle in the morning, at lunch with my mom, in the car on my way home and then to SO. He reassured me (again) and I told him that I was starting to feel the same way about being engaged as someone would feel about being a fairy princess (that it would be really great but its never going to happen). So he gave me a timeline! He said we’ll be engaged by New Year! YAY!
Recently I found out he’s been emailing my older sister asking about opinions and trying to find a time to take my dad out to dinner soooo now I feel comfortable looking at wedding things again (which is how I found my way here lol). I haven’t talked about it to him since that breakdown 3 weeks ago and no emotional breakdowns either (a record!!!).
So that’s us and what’s going on. I can’t wait to get to know all of you!!! (sorry this was so long!)
Post # 3
Welcome to the Bee! Glad to hear things are finally getting on track for you. I’ll keep my fingers crossed for a NYE engagement 🙂
Post # 4
Hey Hun,I hope you have fun on the bee,Ive not been here long myself but I love it!Congrats on getting a date for your engagement! xx
Post # 5
Yay! I’m sure knowing that he is planning on doing it in the next couple of months! Like you I have been having breakdowns for the past 6 months or so bad it has gotten bad in the last 2 months when I found out an old friend’s (who I NEVER thought would be engaged before me) boyfriend had a ring for her and was going to propose any day. I would LOVE to be one of those girls on here who knew that their boyfriend had the ring and just hadn’t done it yet. I wouldn’t care if it took another 6 months, just knowing he had it would be such relief. So… basically what I am saying is you are so close!!! Now I’m sure you can just relax and enjoy the holidays knowing it could happen at any time 🙂
Post # 6
I agree with LittlePenguin, just knowing he had the ring would be a great spot to be.
Congrats – maybe it’ll be Christmas.
Post # 7
Welcome to the Bee! I can’t wait to hear your proposal story!
Oh, and making your little sister be the groom-LMAO. Little sisters get the brunt of it, don’t they? (I’m a older sister.)
Post # 8
Welcome! Its awesome he gave you a timeline so you have a least a range in your head! Dont worry about breakdown, I have them all the time 🙂 I have come to belive they are totally normal!! Cant wait till it happens for you, and It will!!!
Post # 9
You were stalking only for a few days? I must have stalked for months if not more!
Just take it easy and give the man some time, it sounds like he wants to do things properly so give him some time and try not to bring it up. Hard when it’s buzzing around your head non-stop but the more you stress about it the worse it’ll get. Hang in there and it’ll happen.
If the waiting gets too bad try and distract yourself, take a break from wedding sites and magazines, go out and see some friends, do some sports or take up a new hobby. Anything to focus on you and not a ring!