Post # 1
Hi everyone. I’ve been lurking for a while and decided to finally create an account. So I thought I’d introduce myself.
I’ve been dating my Boyfriend or Best Friend for about 7 1/2 months. I am 25 and he is 28. We recently began discussing marriage and moving in together. After a few weeks of the marriage talk, we decided to table it and not bring it up again. I don’t have an issue with this because he still needs to finish school next year and get a job in his chosen career.
And we also need to save money to buy a house within the next two or three years. We are also planning on moving in together by February of next year so we need to save up to buy furniture for the apartment.
I know that this all seems fast but it feels right. And it’s not like we plan on moving in together and getting married RIGHT NOW. We are just discussing it.
So I guess my question to y’all is, when did you officially start waiting? I don’t consider myself to be waiting because we still have goals to accomplish before we can even get engaged. But then I wonder, since we do plan to get married someday. Does this mean I am waiting? Sort of? Just curious to know what y’all think. 🙂
Post # 3
I didn’t “wait” (I never knew that term until I came here…) but, welcome!
There’s a lot of good advice here… & a really supportive Waiting forum!
Post # 4
I started waiting when we picked a wedding date and decided when we were going to get engaged. We’re on an immigration timeline so there was no way for us to pussyfoot around it. We’re actually booking our venue this weekend and we totally aren’t getting engaged until Chirstmas. A lot of girls on here are waiting because the know it is coming for sure… like “after graduation” or “this summer” or “on vacation” or whatever.
So that’s when I considered myself waiting, when we’d officially decided to do it and all that’s left is the ring (and telling everyone).
There are also girls that are waiting because they are ready to take that step but their SO isn’t. I don’t have any experience with that but they are here also.
Basically its up to you when you consider yourself waiting, I didn’t even know it was a thing till I came here either when my SO gave me the go ahead to start poking around wedding stuff.
I love the waiting board though, its an exciting phase of my life that I totally am refusing to talk about with people I know (I want the engagement to be a surprise – only my parents know) so it is nice to come here and flail, because I’m so excited it is coming!
Post # 5
@LadyBlackheart: Welcome to the Bee! We are happy to have you 🙂
I had never heard of “waiting” until the Bee either, but I sure feel like I’ve been WAITING for over a year :-p Then again, i’m impatient. If we are gauging the beginning of waiting as “when I joined the Bee”, then I’d say it was 1 year, 8 months in (january I think?). What prompted me to stop stalking and finally join was when I flat told him I wanted to join a wedding site and did he think that was weird. When he responded “well, you’re getting married, arent you?” I took that as a yes 🙂
Post # 6
@badabing88: Thanks for the welcome! And I could not tell my Boyfriend or Best Friend that I was on the Bee, he would take it the wrong way and be weirded out by it lol.
Everyone else, thanks for the warm welcome! I am excited to become a member 🙂
Post # 7
I had never heard of waiting until the Bee either. When I found it I was like “That’s how I feel!!”
I *officially* started waiting when he started throwing out signs lol since before then I knew he wasn’t ready so I wasn’t expecting anything. Now I just feel like it’s getting close!
Post # 8
Welcome! The bee is an awesome place 🙂 I felt I started “waiting” when we both brought up marriage and I was ready and willing to spend the rest of my life with Fiance, and he was a little reluctant because he didn’t feel ready at the time. I waited (surprisingly patiently) for over a year and he finally proposed! I actually hadn’t even heard of the bee while I was waiting, and am now realizing what an amazing resource it would have been during the whole thing.
Post # 9
I don’t think there’s an official definition of “waiting” in regard to how we use it here. It’s more of when you start feeling impatient, I guess, haha! I considered myself to be “waiting” for probably about a year before the topic was ever brought up with my now-FI, because he moved to a different state for a job and we did the long-distance thing. That’s when I began to feel like I really wanted/needed a proposal. I was “waiting” for a period of almost two years, the second year of that was when we were actually discussing it.
Post # 10
@VaVaVoomBee: Yep, that’s me. I know he’s not ready yet because he told me last week that he wants to be on better terms financially. He’s still in school and he’s working a part-time job right now but he will finish school next year. And lately, he has started looking for a full-time job in his chosen career. So until that happens, I am not expecting anything. So I guess I am not officially “waiting” yet lol.
@krrmee5, I’m glad I found the Bee now, it does seem to be an awesome resource. I am excited to be here while my relationship progresses and of course, get to know the other women on this board 🙂
Post # 11
- Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo
Welcome welcome! 😀
I think I’m kind of like you 🙂 Like, I’ve been kind of hopeful for maybe about a year that he’d spontaneously decide to propose to me but there’s always been stuff for me to focus on and rationally know that I/we need to do before we could take that step (i.e. be together longer, graduate, move in etc.). Recent talks have been promising, albeit not concrete. Basically I’m really not sure if I’m actually *waiting* or not XD (move in next wednesday though so maybe my crazy will kick in soon after that).
Anyway welcome again! I love the waiting board ^^
Post # 12
@MaidMarian: Lol yep, I do kind of hope that he would spontaneously propose before we move in together in February. This September will be our 1 year anniversary and I would love it if he proposed then. But I would not be surprised if he didn’t because he’ll still be in school in September. So it looks like our situations are pretty similar! 🙂
ETA: I hope moving in goes well for y’all! I bet you are super excited lol. Just try to rein in the crazy if it kicks in! 😉
Post # 13
- Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo
@LadyBlackheart: It’s great being able to rationalise why something can’t really happen just yet isn’t it? XD How will we cope when that runs out?
Oh thank you! Boyfriend or Best Friend is fairly used to my varying shades of crazy so hopefully this one will blend in with the others lol. Best wishes to you as well x
Post # 14
@LadyBlackheart: I never knew about waiting, but when I started googling things like “signs he’s going to propose” the Bee kept coming up. I feel like I started waiting (prematurely) as soon as I knew he WANTED to marry me. That was almost 5 months ago, and I still have no idea if we’ll get engaged next month or next year.
Post # 15
@LadyBlackheart: I would say I have been officiqlly waiting since about July last year after we’d been livibg together for 3 months.I should be engaged in Aug 🙂 been together a year and a half
Post # 16
I guess I have been waiting since he told me last Christmas that he has been saving for a ring. It’s been 5 months damnit lol