(Closed) Hi! New Poster new problems.

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

don’t let your ‘friend’ bring you down – you guys are totally entitled to celebrating your union with family and friends!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Why are you letting her opinion bother you? It’s your relationship. You can do whatever you want!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Why are you comparing yourself to her at all? It doesn’t matter what she’s done or how she feels, do what feels right for you and your husband. If you want to have a VC, go ahead and have one! If your friend insists on raining on your parade, she isn’t really your friend.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Don’t let her words bother you! Do what you want!

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Doralise: Don’t let your friend bring you down. Who cares what she things. Some women will get touchy at these situations, but who effing cares. If they are losing sleep over it then it’s probably time for therapy.

People get married at the courthouse and then have a big ceremony and reception later ALL.THE.TIME. The world hasn’t ended as far as I know. Do what you want to do.

You will always have people who say, “Oh, as I guest I would be so upset if it wasn’t a ‘real wedding'” Well tell them to get over themselves. It’s not about them.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Doralise: “No one deserves the right to have a grand wedding but she did and yet grudges me my VC.” 

 This part of your post really confuses me, I dont get why you think no one deserves a grand wedding and I definitely dont understand why you need her approval to do your vow renewal/vow commitment. If you want to do it then do it.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

@Doralise:  Wow.  Sounds like your friend has some issues around weddings, generally.  Honestly, it reads like she’s feeling jealous and competitive – maybe because you have something (a solid relationship?) that she doesn’t.

I say ignore her and do what makes you and your husband and your families happy.  There are all kinds of ways to celebrate love, and no one has a monopoloy on the right way to do things.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

A lot of people (myself included) only believe in having one wedding to the same person. Your JOP was your wedding, and by wanting another one your essentially devaluing it for all those who choose to just have a JOP. A lot of people also believe in making adult decisions, which means not rushing into things, but eh, we’re human, we err.

Personally, I would find it odd to go to what I though was a vow renewal, and see the bride in a full ball gown, complete with a large bridal party and daddy giving her away, etc. Just because in all reality, it’s just a show, you know? I think there is a right way to do a Vow renewal though, and it seems like that’s what you’ve got in your head, so if you want to shut your friend up, get her to site some facts on why you can’t have a celebration with your family on your recent nuptials.

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