- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2015
After hours of pinteresting and finding UK diamond jewellers, I had had my fill and started feeling guilty for pressuring my lovely SO.
We’ve been together for 5 years, and started dating in Sixth Form (aged 17). We’ve since finished school, both graduated from Uni and have bought our first home. We have lived together for a year. I have just finished my MA in October and always said that no way do I want to be engaged while still at University.
I got bitten about this time last year, when my SO’s brother got engaged and seemingly EVERY person I knew from school and uni were engaged.
I remember being on the phone to my mum having a melt down walking the dog. She calmed me and told me to stop worrying and don’t rush him.
But since finishing my degree it’s been on my mind more. We have both talked about marriage and know we want to be married (to each other 😉 ), with him even saying that 2017 is too long for us to be BF/GF. (Timeline?)
The thing is that we bought our house as a project – it has been renovated to a living standard during the last 12 months, but there are always more things that need doing to it.
My parents being the handyman team, we’re always in conversation about what to do to the house next.
Also, to make this story a bit longer (hopefully not dull?), my grandparents are *ahem* getting on a bit, and while I would NEVER rush into marriage because of their ‘we want to see you married before we go‘, I would love them to be there.
So he’s having a mild panic attack in the entrance to Tesco about my parents suggesting house renovation work, my nanna asking whether she can make my dress, and wanting to ask me to marry him.
He doesn’t want to ask me because my grandparents are suggesting it (his are sadly gone already).
And I think he’s initimidated by my dad, so won’t stand up to him and say ‘no, I’m not going to put carpets down everywhere, I want to marry your daughter!’ without a little nudge.
Sorry for the long story, just wanted somewhere to vent.
I really feel for my SO because he wants to please everyone, which we both know can’t and won’t happen anyway. But the most amazing thing is that he wants to propose NOW. Alas, we will have a big builders’ merchant bill at the end of the month again *waves* bye-bye savings.