Post # 16
I agree with the just plain Coke. No one will double check if there is alcohol in it. I also used the I am not drinking because I am hung over from the night before–which worked out really well. While at a friends party before we announced I carried around a glass of wine and periodically went into the kitchen to “fill” it. I occassionally would take a baby sip of it, so I maybe had 1/2 glass over the course of 5 hours. No one paid attention to how much I was actually drinking.
Post # 17
Oo I’ve perfected the fake drinking the past couple months…
-water in beer bottle
-water in small vodka bottle (house party, where you can make your own drinks)
-same drink as Darling Husband and make him drink them both, while pretending to sip
-get to the bar early or pull the waitress aside and ask for O’Douls in a glass or sprite and lime (aka “gin and tonic”) or some other mock drink. Tell them to do the same for future drinks.
-sip drink a bit and walk to grass or sink where you can pour a bit out at a time
-excuses like, “I’m going to the shooting range after this work Christmas party… So I can’t even have one…” Lol
Post # 18
A former friend was the daughter of an alcoholic and was sick of being asked why she doesn’t drink. She said to put a garnish in whatever you are having and people will assume it is a cocktail. Coke and lime/ lemon, sprite with lime/ lemon, ect
Post # 19
Definitely have a private conversation with the waitress before everyone gets there, and ask for all of your drinks to be mocktails.
Also ask for your own tab. If your drinks are put on a group tab everyone will be able to see that you weren’t being charged for alcoholic drinks.
Post # 20
I’d play it up and act like you’re a kid with a Shirley Temple, Roy Rogers, or Cinderella! Say you’re feeling nostalgic if anyone gives you crap.
Post # 21
MsNightOwl9: Just say you are driving. Do you really expect people to give you a hard time about not drinking? I feel like the only peple who care are have alcohol issues or are just nosey people who might think you are PG anyway
Post # 22
I always just did club soda with lime, my friends wouldn’t buy the antibiotics excuse. Luckily people are way less observant than you think the are.
Post # 23
I don’t know where you’re based but in the UK every January is dry-athalon. A month of no drinking to raise money for cancer research charities, a number of people then just continue into February as they’re just following the routine. Could you be “sponsored”? Also if you’re religious, you could possibly do lent in February, giving you plenty of time before announcing.
Post # 24
Medications, you drank the night before, upset stomach, etc. Don’t pretend you’re drinking alcohol when you’re not. It’s too much work. None of your friends will care as much as you do.
Post # 25
I so feel you on this! I’m at DH’s family’s home for Christmas and they are a hard drinking crowd. I’ve been handed more beers than I can count. It’s been a lot of fake sips and secretly handing beers to Darling Husband to sip. Also I poured a few out and drank water from the can a few times. It’s stressful!
Post # 26
Normally, I’d say “uh who cares? Order a soda and move on with your life.” But then I was out once at a table with 7 other girls (college reunion) and I ordered a water. I wasn’t pregnant or sick or anything, I just wanted some water. And the way they all loudly carried on was really obnoxious and embarassing to me. They made such a huge spectacle about making sure everyone within earshot knew I wasn’t drinking. And I didn’t even have anything to be embarrassed about. I eventually had a beer and everyone calmed down. But man, what if I WERE trying to conceal an early pregnancy? These were mostly people I hadn’t seen in years so they don’t know me well enough to know whether I’d appreciate that kind of ribbing. That experience has already shown me that when the time comes, “oh who cares, just order some soda” will probably not do the trick.
Post # 27
Also wanted to add the fake-sipping is definitely a thing. I’m allergic to caffeine, but in my country business people will always bring you cup of coffee before any meeting (and you had better not refuse). Rather than explain that “oh, sorry I can’t drink that. But nothing against you and your hospitality, I swear!” I just put it to my lips periodically and put it back down. Now the only problem here is that at the end of the meeting everyone else’s cup is empty and mine is still full. I’m working on how to address that part, lol.
Post # 28
Totally agree with the concept that if you are socializing with people who cause you to need to resort to “fake drinks” you nee.D new social contacts.
There are numerous and changing reasons why people choose not to drink and grown ups do not owe anyone explanations- about the stones in rings, about fiancee’s salary, and certainly NOT about beverages consumed in social situations.
If tou’re grown up enough to have a baby, order what you want and deflect questions to politics.
Post # 29
You could always say that you got a little too party happy the night before and still don’t feel like you can hold booze down lol (or that you’ve been battling a headache all day and you don’t want to risk it getting worse from alcohol dehydrating you).
Post # 30
Water or spite with a lime looks like a cocktail. I usually drink vodka water so it would look so similar.