Post # 1
How did you all manage keeping morning sickness on the DL while at work? Here is my situation…
DH and I are TTC…We’re in cycle #2 so it’s early for us. I work in a very small office with an odd layout. There are 2 other full-time male employees (in their 40-50’s) who work in the office with me. In order to reach the office bathroom, you need to walk through my office (it was an open space that they converted into an office for me, but part of the “hallway” got absorbed into my area). This set-up works great, as no one would see me coming/going to the bathroom and the other guys use the second bathroom which is attached to the warehouse/lab area. Our construction guys use that one as well, and it is a bit more “grungy.”
The issue though is that I am supposed to be switching offices with one of the other employees. I’m the office manager and this set-up was temporary until I got situated with the position. When we switch, I will either need to use the dirtier, grungy bathroom or walk through my coworker’s office to get to the nice one. This is not particularly ideal for morning sickness! Switching offices has been on the to-do list for about a month now, but I haven’t made it a priority because of this. I’d rather not make it obvious I’m pregnant (especially because I took over the office manager job from the guy I’m switching offices with, AND it’s a family business so I want to tell my parents on my own time).
How did you all do it??
Post # 2
I just ate when I was hungry and that kept it away during the day. Plus the only times I puked where usually in the morning or right when I got home from work. That’s because those were the times during the day were when my stomach had been the most empty. An empty stomach triggers MS for a lot of people, so usually it’s not as bad during the daytime hours- if you keep something in your tummy.
Plenty of people have morning sickness (nausea) but never throw up. And plenty of people have virtually no morning sickness at all.
So I wouldn’t worry much, you might not even have any.
I don’t know, as long as they don’t hear you puking they might not notice. I have to pee like every hour at work lol- and that’s no ones business!
Post # 3
I wouldn’t worry too much. Some women don’t have morning sickness at all, and some just get nausea without actual vomiting.
I also think 2 men in their 40s-50s aren’t going to be observing you closely, trying to figure out if you’re pregnant or not. And if they ARE, well, that’s on them. You still don’t have to announce it until you’re ready, whether they’ve guessed it or not.
Here’s my story: I had terrible morning sickness. I would throw up right outside the office building almost every morning, and I’d have to go to the bathroom a lot during the day, too. I ate strange things, or nothing, which went unnoticed unless we were having a work lunch. I just told people I wasn’t feeling that well, if they asked. I announced my pregnancy when I felt like it. Perhaps some people guessed, but if they did, they were considerate enough not to say anything.
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2015 - Old Mill Boathouse
Leave a pamphlet out on your desk about irritable bowel syndrome and let people see it…
Sorry, I thought you could use a laugh. I don’t have any tips, but I would say that we tend to overthink things way more than others do. If you have to go to the bathroom a lot, I think men generally assume you’ve eaten something off, over you’re pregnant. I know my Fiance wouldn’t have a clue how much time I was spending in the bathroom or how frequently I went or why even in our own home. He just isn’t wired that way.
Post # 5
Hopefully you’re one of the lucky ones and don’t get morning sickness! But people might not even notice that you’re going to the washroom more often.
I didn’t get sick at all until about 14 weeks. I’m 16 weeks right now, and I’ve only thrown up 3 or 4 times at work (over the last 2ish weeks.) I usually don’t go to the bathroom to puke, I go pee and then when I’m standing at the sink, all of a sudden I’ll need to get sick.
Post # 6
Thank you! I really didn’t know what to expect and when people talk about having horribe morning sickness all day, I picture them dashing to the bathroom throwing everything out of their way to make it in time! I never throw-up when I’m sick – only when I’ve had one glass of wine too many (I am very sensitive to getting sick when drinking), and I just RUN to the bathroom in those cases. Good to know about avoiding having an empty stomach!
You’re probably right about them not noticing. I’m probably just being paranoid! Oh gosh! I’m sorry your morning sickness was so bad…that’s what I’m envisioning for myself (for no reason whatsoever, I just think of the worst case scenarios).
HAHAHA. That’s fantastic. I can just picture their reactions when they would see it and try not to say anything! you’re probably right in them not noticing…I’m always overly sensitive to what others are thinking!
Post # 7
We had a similar situation in my office at my old job and our receptionist was also trying to not spill the beans on her pregnancy early on. We noticed that she was taking a lot of bathroom breaks (not reachable, phone would ring and I would have to cover the calls and deal with guests walking in, etc..) I didn’t care because it wasn’t a huge deal to me and we were friendly.
My boss who was a heinous bitch told several of the other girls that she thinks she had an eating disorder- she also used this terminology to speak about the pregnancy of one of my other co-workers when she was sick and not openly discussing her pregnancy. During one of her bathroom breaks, my boss wanted to reprimand her because the VP came to the office and she was not at her desk and ran out in a hurry, so she was not able to let me know to cover her. My boss made a huuuuuge show in front of the VP with some faux outrage about leaving the reception area empty and made it a point to tell the VP that she thought she had an eating disorder and she was going to “handle it”. I ran over to the bathroom to let her know what she was about to walk into and heard her vomitting and asked her if she was okay. That is when she let me know that she was exactly 3 months that morning and had planned on telling our boss later on that day.
I think that people are able to be more sympathetic to your situation if you are honest with them about it. Maybe you can confide in your boss or the office manager about possibly delaying your move until you start to feel better and tell them to keep it in confidence until you are ready to share the news. It would be less disruptive to the office enviornment, safer for you if someone knows what is going on in case of emergencies, and it is WAYYYY more sanitary for you to not have to share with a bunch of men in a dingier bathroom.
Post # 8
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I usually puked first thing in the morning (switching toothpaste helped) and at night. Before I told work, I would suck on jolly ranchers when I felt a little off- helped a lot. Like others mentioned, you have to keep something in your stomach- one day I ate an entire bag of tortilla chips because it was the only thing I could stomach.
Post # 9
Oh poor girl! That would be so humiliating! Thank you for sharing…I don’t think I’ll have any of those issues but still! We rarely recieve visitors, we don’t even have an admin/receptionist. I’m actually the office manager and the highest up here (we’re a satellite office). My boss works in an office a couple hours away. The main thing is that we’re not pregnant YET…and who knows how long it will take! I guess I’ll just move forward with the move and take it as it comes!
I hope I hold off til I’m that far along! I’d be okay telling people at that point if I needed to. I just really don’t want other employees know before my parents since it’s a family business!
Post # 10
Here’s my view, I was pregnant and had no intention to tell until 12 weeks. I never got physically sick, but I was on the verge most days. I chewed lots of gum, drank lots of water, and scheduled conference calls over lunch so I could shut my door and not smell my coworker’s food.
In your case, if you need to puke frequently, you can always puke at your desk or switch up which bathroom you use. Even my mom who had horrible morning sickness only puked once or twice a day at work.
In my case, when I was about 8 weeks I was missing a lot of work for doctors appointments and I was getting sicker. I was also peeing every hour, extremely tired, and hormonal. It was starting to become obvious. We were doing long range planning, so it was only fair to mention to a handful of people that I would be out and why. People kept it quiet.
Then I miscarried. I was so, so happy to have a few people know so that they could cover for me and also be there in case I had complications. I am only mention this because I was so worried about telling people early “just in case”. In reality, it was far better to be honest with a few people you can trust.
Post # 11
you might get lucky and not get morning sickness!!!
if you there are lollipops that help with morning sickness and i also drank a lot of water and crackers were my favorite food.
Post # 12
I didn’t have any, it’s what caused me to believe I wasn’t pregnant for a good bit until I confirmed with an HPT.
Post # 13
I was following your story in the January POAS board. My heart goes out to you – I was so sad to hear about your MC. Thanks for the advice! There will probably be a few people I tell early on, but not work people.
Oh you bet my fingers are crossed for that!!
Post # 14
As soon as I started throwing up at work a few people knew I was pregnant…I really could not hide it because I work with children and if you throw up then you have to go home for 48 hours. Obviously I couldn’t be off constantly and there is usually only one reason for throwing up at work and NOT leaving!
Post # 15
I did dash to the bathroom a few times but it was only in the morning. I would get some nausea during the day but usually only threw up in the morning and once and awhile at night when I ate something yucky. I just made sure to have a snack when I got hungry to keep it away during the day.