Post # 1
OK, so Fiance and I are SOOOOO excited that we are finally expecting! I honestly thought it would take a lot longer than it did. And while I’m so excited and thankful that it didn’t, the timing is kind of the worst.
I’m a worry wort, and although I’m sure everything with the pregnancy will go fine, I know that until the end of the first trimester the possibility of miscarriage is higher, and I always planned on waiting until the 10-12 week mark to announce the pregnancy because I know that having to deal with a miscarriage personally would be bad, but having to deal with it publically would be worse. I know this is the worst case scenario, and I really am optimistic, but I don’t want to take that chance.
ANYWAYS, the point of my post is, my Bachelorette is on Saturday, and while I’m not a big drinker, I know I’m expected to drink. And normally, if it were just MY bachelorette and it came out, well then it came out. But it’s a joint bachelorette with my Maid/Matron of Honor (who By The Way is avidly against me getting pregnant right AFTER the wedding) and I don’t want to make a big deal out of it and shift the focus.
Does anyone have a creative idea for managing to not drink, and not get noticed? Any advice would be appreciated!
Post # 3
Tell them your taking medication for… ???… whatever can’t be mixed with alcohol.
Post # 4
Drink coke or cranberry juice or some other drink that people will assume has alcohol in it
Post # 5
Maybe tell a close friend the situation and have her help diffuse attention from you not drinking/get you fakey drinks? You can make her swear to secrecy! Hopefully, since its a joint party, some of the focus won’t be on you – which will make hiding it easier!
Post # 6
This happened to a friend of mine, she only told me and I brought her bottled beer filled with water all night long.
Post # 7
- Wedding: May 2013 - Kempinski San Lawrenz, Gozo
yeah tell them you’re on antibiotics. If you want to spin the story further, tell them is a badly inflamed ingrown hair on your nether-region. They won’t ask questions. lol.
Post # 8
Congratulations!! So exciting, and being someone who suffered 2 miscarriages, I don’t blame you for being cautious!
Order a drink and run to the bathroom to spill part of it out. Or, like a PP said, just order a ginger ale and call it a Captain and ginger. If someone orders you another, off to the bathroom you go! Makes for a great peeing sound if you pour it in the toilet ;o)
Post # 9
@Adams_bee: Nice excuse….. Haha!!!!
Post # 10
@kariface: i was going to suggest the same thing! one close friend who can do that. maybe go to the bar right at the beginning and get a load of drinks in (as these will be the first noticed) and maybe put a different coloured straw in yours? or a non alcoholic shot for you and be all “let’s get these down us girls!!!!” they shouldn’t suspect a thing after that!
just try not to say ‘oh i’m trying not to drink’ if this is the route you’re going down, or they’ll all ask questions.
make a HUGE DEAL a few days before that you’re taking medication for something really important for your wedding (something for your skin maybe?) and you can’t drink or you’ll get huge breakouts. and complain about it – but then make out that you don’t want to go on and on about it and ruin your MOH’s big event, too!
Post # 11
@Adams_bee: LOL, that is the best excuse I have ever heard! I know I would not ask a single Q after hearing that!!!
Post # 12
Yup, tell them you’re taking a medication that you can’t mix with any alcohol. It’s totally legit – there is a particular kind of antibiotic that is prescribed for a lady-region bacterial infections (which is a normal, non-STD related infection) that you cannot drink any alcohol while taking.
Post # 13
@9_22_12Bride: Metronidazole (Flagyl) is one particular antibiotic that cannot be mixed with alcohol, if you decide to take the antibiotic route. Personally I’d have a trusted friend bring you fake drinks. Good luck and congrats to you 🙂
Post # 14
- Wedding: May 2013 - Kempinski San Lawrenz, Gozo
I would DEFINITELY use that excuse. I always add Too Much Information in those kind of situations, like when i call in sick. Works like a charm.
Post # 15
I think saying you are on a medication (Flagyl is the best, will make you puke if you mix with alcohol) is a good idea. If your friends get really suspicious about that sort of thing, here are some other options:
-ask bartender to make gin and tonic/vodka cranberry using only the mixer
-recruit a friend to bring you “drinks”, but you would have to tell her about the pregnancy
-get drinks, but go to the bathroom and dump them out in the toilet. See bartender on the sly for some water on your way back
-get drinks, hold them for awhile, then “leave” them places (on the bar, etc). this works best with beers so people can’t see how much you drank
Post # 16
Or you can order coke or sprite with a lime, when you have the lime on your glass everyone assumes there is booze in that cup. 🙂