(Closed) Hiding the engagement? Should I be worried?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 121
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2869 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

OP, I’m sorry you’re not getting the support that you are looking for here. It’s hard to support someone when the tone of your posts sound the way they do. First, you blast the ring you’ve been given by your Fiance. Then you blast the proposal itself, saying “Ew” at the cold beach. Then you try to find sympathy frm everyone when you dig yourself a bigger hole by going against what your Fiance had asked.

His reasons for keeping it hush hush are shady but you at least should respect him enough to find out why before posting it on Facebook and making things worse.

Post # 122
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2470 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 1995

FutureAK:  I am not happy I am so very sad for you. BUT if this is the kind of thing that he does (be it real life side relationships or internet relationships ) it is far better that u find out now rather than after getting married. Confront him and demand the truth – he may try to use anger and guilt to throw you off or turn it around on you.  Be strong and I will pray for you. [[ hugs ]]

Post # 123
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2331 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

FutureAK:  Uh yeah, seems like he wanted to tie up that loose end 

Post # 124
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600 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

FutureAK:  Right now, I think you should stay off of the bee for a bit. Whatever your fiance is doing is messed up and I think you need to have some actual friends in your life to talk to at this moment. They know you and your fiance better than everyone on the bee so I think advice from them might be best. I’m sorry that you found out that yout fiance is super sketchy, no one wants that to happen. I think you should call up a best friend or a family member and let them know!

Post # 125
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2837 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

FutureAK:  Maybe he’s afriad you’ll tell everyone how bummed out you are by not only his proposal, but also your ring- and he’s embarrassed?

.8 carats is a nice ring– I tell my husband everyday that I want a house with at least two bathrooms and a big kitchen.  But I know he does his best and sacrifices everything he can so I can have everything he can give me– we just aren’t ready to buy a house that has what I want right now.

You need to have a conversation with him about hiding the engagement- but you also need to be sensitive to how he might feeling right now.

Post # 126
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9059 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Now he is supposedly cheating? Unbelievable is not the word.

Post # 127
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9286 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Post # 128
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2 posts
Wannabee
  • Wedding: September 2015

FutureAK:  “Loose ends to tie up”? Sounds like he wants to make it right, with either a new ring or new proposal. Be patient. Don’t push him for more details, don’t pester him about it – if he’s trying to redo it and do it right, give him space to do that. 

Post # 129
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6441 posts
Bee Keeper

FutureAK:  I posted what I said earlier before I read about the possible cheating.  While I still believe your behavior about the proposal and everything was incredibly rude, he clearly sounds like he’s hiding something adn that he was lying to you.  I’m so sorry that his loose ends was another chick.  I think you need to work things out and see why he thought lying to you was appropriate.

Post # 130
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1377 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

FutureAK:  I am so sorry for the reception you’ve gotten on the Bee, and for what you’re going through right now. Some people are overly angry and vehemently nasty, and unable to see past their own toes. It sounds like you and your Fiance have an important discussion to have, and an even more important decision to make – whether or not you want to stay in each other’s lives. Keep us updated. internet hugs!

 

Bees – I am ashamed. Yes, the OP did something that you may not agree with, but for shame with all the nasty words that have been said. You do not know the entire story, and if you don’t agree with something, either say it tactfully or stay off the post, for heaven’s sake. There is no need to start calling names simply to be hurtful to one person because you think it’s hilarious. 

 

/rant

Post # 131
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171 posts
Blushing bee

Poor you. 🙁

Post # 132
Bee
11811 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion

We’re getting a lot of flags on this thread and some of the comments are crossing the line. I’m going to close it so the mods can review tomorrow.

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