Post # 1
BIG MISTAKE. Hindsight is 20/20, right? Sigh.
I invited a longtime friend of mine to come stay with me before the wedding, and I really regret it. We’ve been very close friends for a while and I love her and care about her very much. But she can be high drama. When she drinks she acts very self righteous and mean.
Im nervous. I really want the week before to be calm.
I was thinking of telling her that I won’t be a good drinking partner cause I want to stay hydrated and well-rested…so maybe she gets the hint about the alcohol. But she has no problem drinking by herself. Again: sigh.
I made a big mistake and I don’t know what to do. I am usually very assertive with friends and like to talk things out, but she reacts SO wildly/angrily to any kind of confrontation.
Post # 3
Awh, Evie, I thought you were going to tell her no? I think that it will be fine, she will be so busy seeing things and being excited to be there that I am sure that she will be fine. Maybe you can come up with a list for her and find a local friend that will take the bullet for you and help you keep her busy. ((HUGS)) You are almost there lady, it will all work out.
Post # 4
Thanks tks! Im trying to figure out how to work this out.
She is set to arrive Saturday night, but I’m going to tell her my cousin can’t put her up from Wednesday night on due to other relatives needing the pull out couch.
So that way it would be only 3 full days together, which isn’t too bad.
There is a possibility also that she may want to travel in between the time she gets here for a few days before the wedding…crossing fingers this happens…
She’s already visited me in Greece so I’m not sure how much sightseeing she’ll want to do.
I think I may tell her that I feel bad that Im not going to be very much fun those days and I’ll be really busy. Maybe that could be her cue to travel and come back for the wedding.
Also there will be so many family members and friends with wonderful energy around me so I’ll focus on that.
Post # 5
I’m sorry 🙁 I get how you feel though. I’m always antsy when guests talk about where they’ll stay and I feel a huge sigh of relief when it’s not with me and they don’t even bring it up. 😛 Will keep you in my thoughts, I think just telling her how you feel may be the best idea. You’re going through a huge life-change and may not mind a night or two(right?)…. but the entire week you want to be by yourself as much as possible to keep your sanity? I don’t think that would be bad to say since it sounds like the truth.
Post # 6
It’s my fault though because I already agreed to have her stay with me. Since more people are coming into town 4 days after she gets here, I have an excuse to ask her to go to a hotel because I’ll need to host family members…but for the few days she’s here I hope she behaves…:-/
I could definitely have her hang with my cousins for a bit.
Thanks for your support. 🙂