(Closed) High school sweetheart invited himself to my wedding….how do I say no?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
5096 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

“Oh, I’m afraid we are having a small wedding and have a very limited guest list, so we can only invite close friends and family.”

Post # 4
1830 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

“I’m so sorry. We’re really limited on space so it’s mostly going to be family only.”

Post # 5
272 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Both of the responses above sound fine. If he’s married himself, he should be able to understand that you have limited space.

Post # 6
396 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We had a small wedding – 60 people and could have easily had over 200 so we had to politely decline. A lot.

You say that the wedding is a small one and inviting family and close friends of you – assuming your ex is not a friend of your Fiance. Then you say that whenever he makes it to your area nextm you and your husband to be would love to catch up with him and his wife.

Ending on a positive is always nice for those kind of messages.

Honestly all the people I went to school with that tracked me down on FB expecting an invite was shocking to me!

Post # 8
396 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@speechgal44:  Oh I know!

One week before the wedding – same situation – babysat her son when I was 14 – I’m 30 now. Waiting in line to renew my driver’s license:

her: oh when’s the wedding?!

m:end of May

her : what time and where I can’t wait!!

me: oh it’s going to be a very small wedding….only family and close friends…..

her: what time and where – I just want to see the dress! 

me: oh! I’m next – GTG!!


NO joke. It’s awful =S. But we both agreed that it was so nice to know that every person present on our day was someone we knew well and got to spend time with. Stick to your guns and ignore!!!

Post # 9
1697 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012


Post # 10
12 posts
  • Wedding: August 2014

This is such a pet peeve of mine! When I changed my relationship status on facebook to engaged, all of a sudden all these people magically wanted to be my friend and come to my wedding. Some were old co-workers who I barely spoke to/worked with. Luckily I’m not getting married till 2014, so I decided to lay off the posts on facebook, and slowly but surely delete people.

But again, it is so RUDE to just invite yourself!

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