Post # 1
Another Bee said that in a different thread. It got me wondering if that is more often than not true. I imagine it must be but want to hear from other Bees.
My Fiance and I are high school sweethearts. We’ve been together 11 years, since we were both 16. We had rough times probably within 6 months of dating to about the 1 1/2 year mark. Instead of growing apart, we grew together by working on issues and fixing them. I have no idea if we’ll stay together forever but I sure hope so.
I wonder if there are any figures about divorce rates or even marriage rates among high school sweethearts. Anyway, are you still with the person you were with in high school?
Edited to add stats
* If married while teenagers, a 54% chance of the marriage lasting at least 10 years
* If married at 25 or older, a 78% chance of the marriage lasting at least 10 years
This topic was modified 4 years, 7 months ago by countingstars. Reason: Found some stats
Post # 3
I’m not but my two best friends are with their high school sweet hearts (two different couples) and a cowork is still with his wife whom he dated in high school since they were 15.
Post # 4
I’m definitely not with the person I was with in high school (thank god). However, I think if a couple is open to growing together and giving each other the space to grow and become their own person it can definitely work. A friend of mine is married to her middle school sweetheart! They both went to college on their own, got settled in their careers, and then got married. They’re the most stable people I know and just welcomed a beautiful baby girl 4 years after being married. These examples are far and few between, but it can work. It’s just a whole lot more difficult.
Post # 5
No. We broke up the summer after we graduated, we were both leaving for college.
I think that more often than not it doesn’t last, though, of course sometimes it does. I would venture to guess that divorce rates are higher, because divorce rates are higher in younger people anyway (though this doesn’t really factor in high school sweethearts who wait a long time to actually get married).
Post # 6
Thank god no. We lasted until the end of my freshman year until I realized he was a controlling manupilative asshole and there were WAAAAY better people out there than him.
Post # 7
I am most definitely not with my highschool sweetheart, BUT I know so many couples that I graduated with and that are still together and happy to this day. I know of at least 11 couples that have been together since high school or longer.
Post # 8
Definitely not! I had two “serious” boyfriends in high school, the second of which I broke up when I went to college. He was a sweet guy, but definitely not the one for me. The first guy was ultra controlling and I’m SO glad I didn’t end up with him.
I did start dating my husband during our freshman year of college, though, so not too far off!
Post # 9
I was in love with a guy I was friends with from 7th grade until a year after I graduated from HS. We dated only for the last three years of that timeline, because we were always in other relationships and he lived in another state for a time. I would of sworn on my etrenal soul I was going to marry him. And I’m glad it didn’t last. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever done, but it was a toxic relationship I had to walk away from for my own mental health and I have now really found someone that is an extension of my being.
That being said, my parents are high school sweet hearts. Dated for 7 years, married for 27. They’ve had their ups and downs like all couples, but they’ve done a good job showing me what an adult relationship & marriage is build on.
Post # 10
Darling Husband and I are HS sweethearts – together for 15 years, married for 3 of those. There were rough years in there, but we overcame. Can or should everyone stay with their HS love? No. That doesn’t mean it’s impossible. I think both people have to be open to growing/changing together otherwise it won’t work. I know plenty of people who married their HS sweethearts and are now divorced. I know plenty who did the same with their College SH and are now divorced.
Post # 11
Nope! I was a jackass in high school and the guys I dated were too
One of my coworkers is married to his high school sweetheart though, just celebrated their 10th wedding anniversary and they seem as happy as any other married couple I know
Post # 13
I do wish it had not ended the way it did, but while it was not a bad relationship, and we were together about 3 years, ultimately it was not the right relationship for a lifetime and he was not the right guy for ME for a lifetime either for many reasons. I’m not in touch with him at all anymore, and have not been for a long time, but ultimately I do know our lives took very different paths and it is good they did 🙂 Same goes for my very “first love”/junior high school boyfriend (but I do have a better idea of where he is as we are facebook friends and such and have run into each other since junior high/high school).
I would say it is more often than not true that high school relationships do not last. Some do, but most do not. I don’t really see that as a default bad thing though!
Post # 14
Nope. We just were on different paths.
Post # 15
I married a guy I went to high school with, we started dating when I was 19. We dated for 3 years, and we were married for 10 years before we divorced- primarily due to his cheating.