Post # 1
So a bunch of dear girlfriends of mine just went in on a group gift for us, which was incredibly generous and thoughtful. Among the ladies who contributed are two ladies who are part of a couple, both of whom I am close friends with individually (as in, not just my friend and the spouse of my friend). I know typically couples would receive a joint thank-you note, but in this case should I send them individual notes, since really, they went in as individuals on a group gift (and not as a couple)?
Post # 3
@starbuck: I don’t understand what you’re saying. You got a group gift and 2 of the women are in same-sex relationship with one another? Why would that matter about thank-yous? If they’re a couple, why wouldn’t they get 1 thank you card? Do you know specifically that each contributed from a different bank account or something?
Post # 4
This seems easiest solved by the mailing address. If the two ladies live together, send one card. If they don’t, send separate cards.
Post # 6
@starbuck: If the ladies that you are speaking of are in a same-sex relationship, send them a joint card–FI and I would think it’s weird to get two separate thank you cards for the same gift.
Post # 7
@Mrs.Darling: yeah. it’s not about the fact that they are two ladies, it’s the fact that they are individually my friends… but you’re right, I’ll just send it to them as a couple.
Post # 8
If you have an individual relationship with each woman, I think you should send a separate note to each. To show that you recognize their relationship, you could send them in the same envelope. However, if you know one of the women better than the other, I would send it to them as a couple.
Post # 9
I say send a joint card if they live together
Post # 10
I’m in the exact same situation. I wrote one card to be mailed to their address and then thanked each of them individually in person. In a similar situation I sent one card to the house but sent an email to each indivdual thanking them.