(Closed) Him freaking out = me freaking out

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
2190 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

It doesn’t sound like its just about the job…has he always been this way? I really think he should seek some therapy. And then maybe couples counseling so that he knows what this is doing to you. Also, just try to communicate to him how you are feeling. I’m sorry that this is hard on you 🙁

Post # 5
3461 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My boyfriend is similar, though he’s not in his dream job at the moment he did switch jobs 6 months ago in part to get away from his old boss with the promotion.  Sadly, he doesn’t like his new boss either.  (He only likes his first boss he ever had.)  He can’t handle the criticism and stress and work and takes it very personally.  He calls himself a realist, everyone I know considers him a pessimist.  I personally also think he’s depressed but he refuses to see someone.  It’s hard to be his main support (his friends are starting to tired of him complaining about his jobs, which is all he’s done for years) when I’m only partially employed myself.

My strategies: I encourage him to talk to him friends/mom.  I try to get them to talk when I’m not sitting next to him as well (or it’s the same as talking directly to me).  I let him know when I can’t handle it anymore.  I try to remain cheerful/upbeat and remind him of how good he is and that he should let it roll off of him.  I try very hard to not let it affect me or take it personally when he refuses to let go of the subject and goes on and on, and won’t take my advice.  This works a lot of the times. When it doesn’t and I finally get upset and depressed by it/him (wondering if he’ll ever be happy, or big ticket items like  how he’ll handle family life down the road), it takes him about 20 minutes to get worried and snap out of it and then he spends an hour or two trying to cheer me up.  PM me if you need to.

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