(Closed) Him: “Whats for tea”, Me:”Whyaren’tweengagedyet”

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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3981 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I am really happy for you that you were able to say that with such… grace. I was terrible about it when I was waiting! I am the guilt trip kinda girl which doesn’t help my case much. lol.

 

I also love that tea is a real meal! Tee hee. I have to admit, that made me giggle inside. I always thought it was one of those over exaggerated things that we assume it happens all the time but actually doesn’t. But no, ITS REAL! lol

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Awwww, how sweet!  You must be so relieved to put your honest feelings out there and to get the reassurance you needed.  I especially love your ‘getting ready’ analogy. Keep us posted and best of luck getting to June 🙂

Post # 5
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3304 posts
Sugar bee

It does sound like it is coming- sometimes those eruptions are needed. I am glad the conversation has helped you ease your mind. *hugs*

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

@WaitingweddingBE: 

I said, if you really wanted a night out you find the money, if you want new clothes etc you find the money, if you wanted to marry me you’d find the money. (Truth is he knows I couldn’t give a hoot if it was toy ring, I’m just ready to be his wife)

I said, “telling me its time, its money, you’re not ready, it’s all excuses.”

I said “I’ve been ready to marry you for a long time- Metaphorically speaking it’s like I’ve been waiting by the door ready for a night out and your still getting ready, for a while I was ok with knowing I was ready before you but now I’m a bit annoyed and frankly offended that you think you should keep me waiting for so long.”

Spot on! Well said! Isn’t it funny how us waiting gals can put into words what so many of the rest of us are feeling, so precisely and accurately? Another example of men being from mars, and women from venus, I suppose, lol.

Post # 7
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Newbee

@WaitingWeddingBE:  I’m in the EXACT same situation as you….in January, we went ring shopping and he told me that our engagement would be “soon.”  Well, our anniversary is tomorrow, but we celebrated it yesterday.  I was disappointed that there wasn’t an engagement and found out that he hasn’t even boughten the ring yet.  Before this, I was going crazy about not being engaged yet.  However, last night we had a heart to heart and talked about everything.  He said that it wouldn’t be any later than the summer.  (I’m assuming he is going to do it while we are in Vegas or in the Lake of the Ozarks).  We are going to Vegas in June and Ozarks in July.  At first, I kept telling him that it was so far away.  However, after I really thought about it, it’s only 4-5 months away.  I’ve been with him for 5 years now, what’s another 4 or 5 months before we get engaged?  I’m not sure why we have to boil before we can relax again.  But, like you, I felt it was definitely necessary to talk about it to make me feel better! 🙂

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

Hahahahaha!  Sounds very familiar to me!  I told my SO that it was like a child who’s puppy got lost and he’s sitting on the porch everyday hoping the puppy comes home, but how long does the child wait before he gives up hope that the puppy isn’t coming home. 

 

Analogies!

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Metaphorically speaking it’s like I’ve been waiting by the door ready for a night out and your still getting ready, for a while I was ok with knowing I was ready before you but now I’m a bit annoyed and frankly offended that you think you should keep me waiting for so long.

Good analogy!  I’m filing this one away for next month when I will broach the topic again if we’re not engaged yet.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

@Elleymae: haha I used the exact same analogy! He looked at me like he actually understood how I felt too… 🙂

Post # 12
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Busy bee

I love the “waiting on your to get ready” analogy! Well said!

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