(Closed) Hindsight: If you could change one thing about your wedding… ADVICE?

posted 9 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
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2767 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I wouldn’t have worried so much about the stupid little things – like favors, centerpieces, and out of town (welcome) bags.  I spent so much time thinking about those three things and planning them and in the end no one really cared.  The amount of time and thought I put into the centerpieces alone was ridiculous!  I should have just kept it simple like I had initially thought of when I first got engaged.  But over a 15 month engagement I changed things several times with the centerpieces and the price of them kept increasing.  Stick with your first instinct ladies and things will still turn out alright and cost less!

Post # 4
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1103 posts
Bumble bee

I would have nagged Darling Husband more with regards to the reception play list. He left it until the night before and didn’t have a copy of the songs with him, so just made it up. He sent a groomsman to me asking for the songs but I misunderstood the problem 🙁 I’m the dancer, Darling Husband hates it, so there were some very odd choices in there that had me & my girlfriends leaving the dancefloor more than once. He also didn’t think about the oldies – I had put a few older songs on there so the parents etc could have a good dance, but he didn’t. I still had a great time but this is one thing that was truly preventable and did bother me quite a bit on the night! So yes, an ipod reception can work (I’ve seen it done very well which is why we did it without considering any other option) – but you need to put the effort in beforehand!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

gosh i have a whole vent list but since your only asking for one thing…i wish dh and i had more energy for the day! For some reason both of us, who drink at least two cups of coffee a day didn’t get enough caffeine in our system for the most important day of our lives! We ran out of energy towards the last few hours of the night when we should’ve had the most fun!

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

for the destination brides, i would change the time we married – we married on a tropical island at 1pm and geez it was HOT

in hindsight a 8am wedding or a dusk wedding – anything but a blazing hot 1pm wedding

Post # 7
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1336 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

great post!  @contrarymary I can see that happening to us, I should have an energy shot or drink ready, thanks!

Post # 8
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2767 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

@eloping – I agree with you!  I’ve been a guest at a Florida destination wedding that was at 2pm.  Everyone was hot, sweaty and uncomfy!  The pics didn’t look that great!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Invite only those you love -don’t worry about what others think.  People I didn’t want to invite in the first place blew my wedding off on the day of.  Don’t let anyone push you around (only invite plus 1s if YOU both want to, etc.)  Oh and that dumb b**** who wore a white dress (an ivory vintage wedding dress to be precise-complete with headpiece).

Post # 10
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995 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I would have had a videographer. The speeches (and the whole day) were so amazing, but I already feel like I’m forgetting some of the details 🙁

Post # 11
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604 posts
Busy bee

OMG!!! She even wore a head piece! I saw an old friend wearing a white dress in someone’s wedding and i was like oh hell no! That is uncalled for and disrespectful! lol

Post # 12
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436 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Get a day of coordinator, she was such a huge help!

Post # 14
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2767 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

@kelmac – i have forgotten so much already too.  I was just thinking today how I feel like I only remember the bad things that happened or stupid things that didn’t matter.  I wish I could remember more of the whole day.  Part of me feels like I only remember things because I have been looking at the photos so much.  I wish I could remember the actual moments instead of remembering a photo, anyone know what I mean?

Maybe a videographer would have been nice to have at my wedding too!

Post # 15
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11826 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion

I would have budgeted for a kick-ass videographer (preferably one who does Super 8).

Post # 16
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2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

We would have remembered to pass off our video camera to a family member to record our wedding. We didn’t want to pay for a professional, but we still wanted some video coverage of our ceremony and some of the reception. Oh well.

Honorable mentions:

– I would have taken OTC sleeping pills the night before. I didn’t sleep the night before our wedding at all (or the night before that), and the next morning on the wedding day, I was feeling it. When I don’t sleep, I get sick, and I felt icky the whole morning. It partially ruined my time with my girls, which I was really looking forward to.

– I would have made a more detailed photography list. I know we can’t get every shot we want, but I wish I had made more of an effort to write out more pictures that we wanted (we forgot some family and some creative/detail shots we really wanted). It was our fault – we never told our photographer.

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