(Closed) Hindsight wedding regrets?

posted 7 years ago in Money
Post # 17
1831 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

-Not having a videographer… even a cheapie one. Our photographer was excellent, but I would love to have some footage (even amateur) to see the ceremony/dancing.

-We never met our officiant and he turned out to be a real turd. I wonder if we were his first wedding.

-Not having my bouquet preserved. I spent tons on flowers and I wish I would have some sort of keepsake. They were so beautiful in a way that cannot be appreciated through pics alone.

-Not going on a honeymoon right away. We still haven’t gotten around to it, and even if we do, the magical wedding vibe is gone.

-Worringing too much about how I’d look. You stop giving a shit about your hair/makeup/dress about 30 seconds after walking down the aisle. Immediately after the ceremony I stepped in mud and my dress got dirty. I couldn’t have cared less, but had it happened an hour earlier I would have melted down.

Post # 18
136 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@duchiewoo:  I’m not married yet but my biggest fear is I will regret not getting a videographer. I’m still trying to convince my fiance to find room in the budget for it!

Post # 19
335 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Yeah I want a videographer! Some hie it is going to happen!

Post # 20
42 posts

All of you ladies without a videographer/don’t have a budget for it?  Seriously, we just had a friend set up a tripod and let the thing record our ceremony and the speaches at our reception.  He did it for FREE.  Totally worth it!  It doesn’t need to be fancy, but someone in your family/friends will have a camera and be willing to do this for you!

My biggest regret?  Holding my bouquet like a trophy!  Ugh…

Post # 21
766 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

We aren’t married yet, but our wedding is in October and we more or less have everything planned. A few things I wish we had done differently:

(1) We have a very beautiful venue that is known for great service. It’s also one of the most expensive in our area. I suggested we do a Sunday wedding to save a pretty significant amount of money, but my parents (who are very generously footing the bill) preferred a Saturday wedding. It’s just a little sickening to me that we could have saved so much if we did it one day later. 

(2) I really wish that when we had gotten engaged, our parents and us sat down and talked about who was willing/able to contribute what. It’s caused a few moments of tension (FI’s family had no idea about the rehearsal dinner until we told them). I think our discussions regarding money should have been more frank. 

(3) I really wish we could afford a videographer. I know that I will regret not having one, but it really isn’t in our budget because we’ve gone over in a few areas (flowers and rentals). I like the idea about having a friend stand in the back with a tripod. I may float that by everyone. 

Post # 22
295 posts
Helper bee

I regret not having the photobooth open all night. We paid for three hours and it was huge hit. We should have had it open from the very beginning. 

I also regret not asking someone to grab my bouquet at the end of the night. I was planning on drying it out to put in a shadowbox I’m making. Not a clue who picked it up or where it went. 

I wish I had done an edible favor, but we didn’t have time to put 200 of them together. 

Post # 23
182 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Do not regret:

Making a detailed budget with FH a year before and really sticking to it

Spending a lot of time researching vendors to dig out great ones in our limited price range

Hiring a really good photographer (not necessarily the most expensive!) 

Not having a photobooth. It was something I thought I really wanted but I am glad we didn’t waste the money. They are fun, sure, but I am glad we saved that $800-1000. 

Waiting a week to go on our honeymoon. Gave us both time to haul all of our stuff from the venue, sort through gifts, get our thank you notes in order and deposit the checks, pack, and rest before the long flight/travel. 



Not going overbudget to hire a videographer. I had planed to have my family/dad set up a videorecorder on a tripod (did this at my sister’s wedding and worked fine) but it didn’t end up happening. I won’t go into the blamming but the fact is if I had hired one, I would have some kind of wedding video. Photos/photographer made up for this though.




Post # 24
1915 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

My only regrets were things I didn’t spend money on. Namely a photographer for our rehearsal dinner and a videographer.  We hired my brother’s friend and I still don’t have a wedding video two years later.

Post # 25
300 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013 - Colonial Country Club, Ft. Myers, FL

I regret not going with my gut and having a reliable photographer.


The photographer I used took amazing pictures, but he was really shady throughout the whole process and was hard to get in touch with. I basically had to threaten to sue him in order to get my pictures back ( nearly 5 months later) and he gave them to me on a crappy homemade dvd. We were promised a leather bound case with professionally made dvds with our name and wedding dates on it. Never got it. He claims he sent the pictures to the company that handled the boston marathon photos and they were backed up, so we wouldn’t get them for awhile (which is a total lie and it’s in very poor taste to use that tragedy as an excuse)


He also said on the day of the wedding his asst photographer was in a car accident and was rushed to the hospital, so I have zero pictures of my hubby and groomsmen getting ready. Turns out there never was another photographer to begin with.


He stopped returning phone calls and I found out he sold his business and never heard from him again. we were gonna sue because we made him sign a contract, but it would have cost us way more money, time and effort to eveN bother.


 Needless to say if I ever see him on the street,  I’m gonna punch his face in.




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