(Closed) Hindu wedding w/o bride’s parents?

posted 6 years ago in South Asian
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think it’s hard to give advice without knowing what the bride’s parents’ role is in the wedding. It seems to be a bit more than just wanting their love and support on your big day. What is the role usually?

No aunts, uncles? Cousins? Siblings? 

My friend had a lot of her husband’s family stand in on her side because her own family wouldn’t attend her wedding. Maybe that’s an option as well. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Usually in traditional hindu ceremony the bride is handed over to groom by the bride’s parents or an elder couple (who take the place of parents). From what Ive seen, requirements are they must be older than you and married to each other. So you can’t also have widowed or divorced family members performing ceremony. Perhaps you could ask an elder from your community who could stand in? or have someone that you are close and consider as family doing the honor? Good luck on your upcoming wedding!!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@coconut2012: Understand your situation. Not sure where you live but if there is a temple there, you could check with priest if they conduct ceremony and options. Sorry Im no further help, hope you find something that works for you and your Fiance.

Post # 7
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Bit of a tough situation but I agree with silver1 – talk to your priest and see who can stand in.  In addition, some priests are also willing to change the ceremony a bit to accommodate different cultures.  Perhaps the role of the brides’ parents in a traditional sense can be changed so it’s not as important as in other Hindu ceremonies.  Since your fiance’s parents would know the situation, they may be comfortable with that change if the priest is okay with it.  

Also just to clarify who walks you down the aisle – I think it’s dependent on where you are from India.  While parents & elders do in some Hindu marriages, many gujarati brides are walked down by their mother’s brother(s).  I’ve also seen quite a few Northern Indian brides walked down by their sisters &/or female cousins, or best friends if they don’t have any.  So, maybe just ask a few of your friends to walk you down the aisle?

Just a thought if the ceremony cannot be changed – Maybe a couple (like a cousin) on your fiance’s side would be willing to perform the ceremony for you.  

 

 

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